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Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

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Frouby · 05/02/2019 06:34

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

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Frouby · 28/03/2019 18:48

My ChubbyChuff took itself to pub earlier. We went on a dogwalk, ended up at pub. Twas the chuffs fault.

Not even ashamed though, twas lovely sat outside in the sunshine. Now we are having chinese for tea 😜😜😜

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Dionysa · 28/03/2019 18:58

God frouby..you make me laugh out loud Me too, Flossie 😂😂 If I could bottle Frouby, I wouldn't need to drink.

Thisname, I am not going to be a source of useful advice as DS is here, so the GP came for lunch. As a result, I am finishing off the wine now. Friend's b'day tomorrow, too, so I have written tomorrow off as well.

Anglaise, it's brilliant that your DC are happy as well.

Thisnamechanger · 28/03/2019 22:15

I saw the lovely cold beer sitting in my fridge temptingly but was positive angel and had veggies and vegan burger and tucked myself into bed. Will be looking forward to it when I'm back from my exercise class tomorrow night. Not buying any wine at the moment as risk of devouring whole bottle is too great. Saturday written off due to dinner with DF -as we're as bad as each other when we get together on the red-- night everyone

NC4Now · 28/03/2019 23:12

I was all on track for a nice AF evening after a brutal 13 stretch at work. Then I picked DS1 up from his girlfriend’s and he said, ‘eh mum, if I give you a fiver can you get me a couple of beers?’
So I did. And I got myself two mini bottles of Prosecco, to be social with him. It was nice actually but unnecessary.
No real harm done. I might not be saying that at 7.30am, when I should be starting work....

longestlurkerever · 29/03/2019 09:12

Yes ditto NC4. DH and I noticed there was a bit of wine left in a bottle in the fridge so we had that. Normally Thursdays are an easy AF day but she keeps failing to feel up to his pub quiz and hanging around being a bad influence instead. We resisted opening another though so was only a smallish glass. Am on a 2.5 hour round trip to visit friend's baby for max 1 hour, Felt like a good idea when I agreed to it but is gorgeous summer day. Dd1 goes on brownie camp this evening! She also has a party at,4 with an international spy theme and she had a sudden volte face over her costume at 8:39am. Am busy fashioning spy gadget belt and tracking down sunglasses to replace the ones I stood on this morning. Am liability.

Have sorted my road trip of the north for the week after next though. We were supposed to be going to Scotland bit brexit has scotched that plan so we will do Haworth, Alnwick, County Durham and Sheffield.

Dionysa · 29/03/2019 19:41

Lots of harm done here. FML.

Thisnamechanger · 29/03/2019 21:42

Wanna talk about it Dionysa?

Frouby · 29/03/2019 21:47

Ahhhh Dion fuck it, its friday. What harm can be done on a Friday. It's not like 'I am drinking because Wednesday'.

Having said that I am fairly sober here. Ds had a party 4pm to 6pm so I didn't get home until 6.15pm so a limited amount of time to drink. 2 lagers and 2 gins. Have had worse Friday's.

Good job really, have got someone else coming out to measure up for blinds between 9.30 and 10.30, and the house is a bloody mess so will be getting up early.

Made curry for tea, was lush. First time I have made it just for us and not for people coming and have enough for another meal saved in the freezer. My cousin made sure she came for a portion to take home though 😂😂😂, she loves it bless her.

Dh started painting the fence at home today. Sigh. Did the back fence and was tired bless him. Looks good though, gone from an awful orangey stain to cuprinols 'Seagrass' which is a light bluey green colour.

Last time we painted the fence, every house copied 😜, so we are waiting for a sea of pastel fence paints to happen. We can see about 8 gardens from the back window, and out of the 8, 6 were painted the same sort of shade within 4 weeks. The shed needs doing as well, am tempted to do it multi coloured to see if they copy that.

Off to bed shortly. Dh is snoring in the sofa (hes had a lot more to drink than me) so I will make like a ninja and sneak off and starfish!

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NC4Now · 29/03/2019 23:07

That reminds me of summer 1997 when I asked my mum to borrow £30 so I could go out clubbing —raving—
She said yes, if I painted the fence. It took me the whole summer to paint that bastard fence, rocking up home at 9am after no sleep and a hard night’s partying to be handed a can of Cuprinol. Brutal.
Not my finest hour.

Dionysa · 30/03/2019 12:47

Loving these fence stories. 😂 Does anyone want to come and paint mine, or send a DH over to do it?

Thisname, that is very kind of you. Just fed up with myself, as I went out for a girls' b'day lunch. I had about 2/3 bottle of wine over about three hours, then polished off another couple of glasses at home for no reason at all. I didn't even really want it. I didn't even feel drunk, either, as it was all over the course of about 6 hours. So it was a waste of wine, a waste of calories, and basically all completely unnecessary. The sharing it with friends was nice, but I should have stopped at that. The usual old story of 'no off switch'. And given that it's the second day in a row that I've done this, I'm all the more pissed off with myself.

Anyway, I'm intending to be dry tonight. But I am always full of good intentions.

How is everyone else's weekend going?

Frouby · 30/03/2019 14:18

Mines same old same old. Had another company out to measure up for blinds again this morning so it forced an early morning cleaning session so at least the house is tidy.

Had fish and chips for lunch, so will just have a sarnie for tea tonight. Took ds and the dog for a long walk to tire the fuckers out. Dog flat out but ds still being a pest. Dd looking through recipe books and asking if we have random ingredients like mustard seeds or fennel then looking pained when I say no. Dh flopping around watching sport.

Am going to have a cuppa, do another fucking load of fucking bastard washing (not letting dh sneak in a half pile of ironing tmrw by claiming he thought it was all there), then clean my dining table and treat it to some proper wood polish.

I am still waiting for dh to finish my fence otherwise I would gladly send him up, get the fucker off the telly remote for an hour or 2.

Not sure if I will be dry or not. Have a feeling I might have a gin or two later.

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Thisnamechanger · 30/03/2019 14:24

I didn't even really want it

This is curious isn't it - I've definitely done this loads. I have been AF Mon, Weds, Thurs, Fri this week (pissed as a fart Tuesday) and I'd been looking forward to the beer in my fridge as a Friday treat after my exercise class...and even though I didn't really want it there was still this habitual pull... especially as it's Friday...also 'because it's there'. I didn't have it in the end but could have gone either way.

Giving myself a free night tonight and me and DF make beasts of ourselves with the red wine when we meet up for dinner.

Off to DGM (93) to bring her her new mobile phone and teach her to use it - pray for me.

Dionysa · 30/03/2019 23:00

So much for good intentions. DS has led me astray tonight. Plus I am miserable about DP, so didn't need much misleading. And I had had a Becks Blue as well. FML. Hope everyone else is doing better.

NC4Now · 30/03/2019 23:10

Nope. I’m a disaster zone Dion. Put it this way - tonight feels fairly moderate having just one bottle of red.
My kids are away, but I fell out with my best friend a few weeks ago (about her drinking, ironically) and other friends have been busy, so it’s just me and the cat this weekend.
Poor little chap had a rotten time at the vets earlier too.

Dionysa · 30/03/2019 23:12

Your moderation is the same as mine, NC4 Confused. Really sorry about your cat and friend, though. xx

NC4Now · 30/03/2019 23:51

Cat will be okay - extra Dreamies for him tonight. Friend I’ve known since I was born. It’ll blow over. I’m not sure anything will change though.

Thisnamechanger · 30/03/2019 23:57

I think me and DF smashed a bottle and a half of red each Sad on the plus side DGM is delighted with her new special old people mobile phone and has been texting us all night. We all managed not to mention late DM. Usual sad/visit home but at least DGM can text us Smile

Thisnamechanger · 30/03/2019 23:57

Back to AF tomorrow I hope.... although I know that pesky beer is in the fridge!

leavingAqaba · 31/03/2019 06:55

Both my weekend evenings were moderate (half bottle of wine) which is most unusual for me. Then a lunch invite with drinky friends meant I spend the whole afternoon yesterday drinking, don't remember getting home, have been awake since 1am with The Fear, now back at work for the start of the week with a hangover. FML Sad

Anglaise1 · 31/03/2019 09:49

NC4 I hope your cat is OK, and you make up with your friend.
Dion what has DP done now?
Frouby DH flopping around watching sport - you are so funny.
Spent yesterday in the garden tidying up, DP worked hard so hopefully has lost at least one of his excess kilograms DS back from his ski trip and got his first star, so good for someone who has never skied before.
After quite an unmoderate week, still no AF nights, 1 bottle of red each Friday and Saturday friends over so again one bottle. Not good Unit tally must be over 40. The thyroid treatment I'm on plays havoc with liver function so I'm probably not doing it any favours at all by drinking so much. Another blood test tomorrow, last time the liver enzymes had doubled in 2 weeks. Seeing the endochrinolgist Tuesday so will know more then. Happy Mother's Day to all UK mums, it isn't here in France, but then even when it is at the end of May I still have to do everything.

Frouby · 31/03/2019 14:49

Afternoon all and happy mothers day to us all.

Normal day here, apart from going to visit my mum. I got a new purse, some flowers and chocolates. The flowers and chocolates were grudgingly bought by dh this morning from the local shop, when he realised I expected flowers and chocolates because Mothers Day. The purse was from dd which I asked for.

They are all driving me mad. Dh is passively aggressively doing nothing very helpful very loudly. Dd is making a huge fuss about peeling the veg for dinner and declaring she is definitely not washing pots because she is peeling the veg. Ds is bouncing around bossing dh around as I have said its my day off.

Fuck sake, would be easier just to do everything myself. Have got headache already and they haven't even started cooking.

Remind me next Mothers Day to fuck off out and leave them to it.

Moderated well yesterday. 1 x carling, 1 x gin. Usually dry on sundays but seriously seriously tempted to go to the shop and get a bottle of wine because Mothers Day.

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NC4Now · 31/03/2019 15:51

Sounds like I should be grateful to be home alone with the cat for company Frouby.
I’ve been watching the last series of Line of Duty ready for the new one tonight.

Frouby · 31/03/2019 16:12

NC am sat with just the dog for company now, which is much better. Have taken the potatoes off dd because she can't peel them properly because she is left handed. Apparently it's not the right sort of knife and she can't use the peeler because left handed.

Have sent ds upstairs to pick on dh who needs to have a lie down, so exhausted he is from cleaning up after himself. And dd snuck off while I was peeling spuds.

So yeah, am cooking dinner.

Beats going out though, went past the local pubs earlier and they are queueing for car parking spaces and queueing to get in 😮😮😮. The food isn't even that nice, just normal pub food chain type stuff.

Bugger that, at least my Sunday roast will be nice. We're having lamb as well, I rarely buy it as its expensive but Aldi do a half leg British lamb joint for about £9, you just have to grab them earlier on in the week otherwise they sell out.

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Dionysa · 31/03/2019 21:31

I want a dog.

FML.

Mother's Day. DS made a lot of noise about it, but did fuck all. DD was staying with a friend who has a hot tub, so this is far more appealing than her mother.

However... She did then reappear and take me to the pub (!) Bless her. She may hate me for 364 days of the year, but she has a good heart.

It would have been fine (for me) if I'd had one drink, but I of course have quietly carried on.

Anglaise, DP's shiftiness is to do with not acknowledging my existence. I have been his girlfriend for over three years, but the minute his DC descends, I have to run away and pretend I don't exist.

This was compounded this weekend by a trivial matter. He volunteered to buy me something as he lives local to it. I said yes, thank you, that would do me a favour as I would otherwise have to try to carry it home on the bus. Later that day, I said I would collect said item. To which he said: "Oh, was I supposed to be buying it for you?"

In itself, this is nothing. But given that I do him similar favours on a daily (literally) basis, I'm mightily upset. My standards are low. I didn't expect him to think of me without being prompted. I wouldn't have asked him unprompted. But he fucking well volunteered. And still couldn't be arsed.

I consulted DS, to get a man's perspective. He said: "he probably forgot'. He then launched into a load of psychobabble about how I'd be floating on a cloud of bliss, had DP done something nice for me, whereas I'm in a trough of despair because he forgot some trivial thing. Neither is logical or rational, says DS.

I said: "so am I not allowed to sulk for three days?" He said: "Well, you can, but nobody will give a shit".

FML a thousand times over. And again.

Meanwhile, DD has gone vegan. But she doesn't like vegetables. This will be fun.

longestlurkerever · 31/03/2019 22:00

Happy mother's day everyone. I have dd1 back safe from Brownie camp. She had a good time and is full of how much she missed me. Will see how long that lasts. Dd2 is being odd and fragile, think she might be ill. AF by skin of teeth. DH suggested mother's day fizz and I was very tempted but am out every day this week so I declined. I have eaten a gazillion calories though so not feeling too smug.

Dion, blokes are shit. It's hard to say if yours has been shitter than most. But you can tell him he's been a selfish arse either way. Glad DD was sweet.

Enjoy your roast Frouby.