Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

Ha! Longest. Would love to tell him that. But I am a terrible people-pleaser, so I will apologise for existing and tell him that it is all fine, should he bother to ask. Which he won't, because he's a selfish bugger.

Well done on being AF. I was going to be, but DD taking me to the pub was the start of the slippery slope. On the good side, I have now drunk everything in the house and bought £20 of books today instead of gin, so tomorrow will not involve making choices, because it will be reading or nothing.

Glad your DD1 is back safely and is being nice! Hope DD2 is ok...

Dion what books did you buy? DP doesn't deserve you, but you know this and it doesn't make it any easier, I know.
Longest glad the Brownie weekend went well.
Frouby my Curry book has arrived so I'll be testing at least one recipe this week.
I've decided no wine in the house this week. And now the clocks have changed it means that long bike rides will be possible in the evening as well as running. Weather permitting of course and this week looks doubtful.

Hi everyone.

Dion my heart goes out to you. Just sounds an impossible situation for you. You must be mightily frustrated. I’m glad dd took you out tho, that’s very sweet. My ds sent me a Mother’s Day card from uni. Couldn’t believe it!! Opened it up and it said ‘thanks for looking after me, even when I’m a twat’. Guess his hearts in it somewhere!!

Frouby - hope your roast was delish. I’m sure it would’ve been. Crap that dh had to lie down tho!!

I’ve had my parents staying. My dad is difficult. Doesn’t contribute really. No conversation, and then doesn’t muck in either but expects to be waited on. I’ve had a chat with my mum. Told her first day of the month today means that new start. Told her not to wait on him. Sort herself, and leave him. He can put his own food on the table, and clear his own plate. Think she’s going to struggle!! But hate seeing him take the piss out of her constantly!!

Had wonderful mother’s day. Just the simple pleasures in life. Dd2 was well. Dd1 wasn’t a cow. Dh made me a cuppa. All meant it was a good day!!

flossie “even when I’m a twat” love it

Aw Flossie. So glad you had a good day, and ds was appreciative. Good on you sticking up for your mum too.

I am wallowing a bit. DH is not well but is also being very annoying. He's not working or contributing in any way "because ill" and I am a bit fed up of having to have a smile on my face while doing absolutely everything for this family and not even getting any proper human interaction from him. Even the 5 minutes walk nursery run is an unreasonable request, and as for bringing in the laundry or unstacking the dishwasher while I am working....

Am supposed to be going out for drinks with friend tonight but can't be arsed. She wants constant support too and I have nothing left to give. Just want to grump off to bed really. DD has started up with the food fuss again and I want to scream. Am on period so that's probably not helping matters.

Longest, that sounds a really rubbish place to be for you. I’m so sorry for you. Have you told him how youre feeling? I know it may be a drain possibly if your friend needs suppport, but sometimes a change of scenery, and getting out to be able to be yourself, may refresh the batteries.

Oh God Longest. I feel for you on all those fronts. Early night!!!

Flossie, I am so happy to read this. Your DS beat mine!! Thank you for being so sweet, too.

DD is making up for her niceness yesterday by being an absolute cowbag. But I am going to be AF because I'm so sodding sick of feeling tired, and I know drinking only makes it a million times worse.

Anglaise, thank you. I bought a book about people who were inspired by walking, two novels, and a coffee table type art book (don't normally buy these, but it caught my eye).

Longest you poor thing. I know it is difficult because your DH is ill but emptying the dishwasher isn't a major effort. And little things like that make all the difference when you are a busy mum.
Flossie so pleased you had a good Mother's Day even if your own mum didn't! Do you think she will leave your Dad? Men can be bloody useless sometimes.
Dion enjoy your books tonight. I'm AF with you. I'm quite sick of alcohol. And no birthdays/house offers accepted/exam results to celebrate this week so hopefully it will be easier.
Earlier you were talking about dogs...this is mine, he is 5 years old and my main running buddy. I've had him since he was a pup and it is one of my longest ever relationships with a male. He is good looking, intelligent, rarely ill, always pleased to see me and always full of energy unlike most of my exes

❤️❤️❤️ your DDog, Anglaise!

Only an hour and a half to go here until bed...

I love your dog Anglaise. I think I prefer animals to humans these days.
Got told to Fuck off on Tinder last night by some bloke who accused me of taking too long to reply to his messages (probably a minute or so) saying I must be talking to five other people too. He didn’t ask a single thing about me, just answered a couple of questions I asked him then started on the controlling bullshit. Weirdo.
Back to hanging out with my cat, I think.

Awww beautiful doggo!

I got flowers and champagne from work today but have stayed AF. Had a vegan magnum though - quite impressed!

DS1 got me a bottle of red wine for M Day. I think he sent his mate to the shop (or has fake ID). It’s quite passable!

Good old Ds, NC. I would love it if dd was old enough to get served alcohol, be ideal to send her to the Spa when I run out of wine or beer .

Cold and wet here, bleurgh. Was just getting excited for a warm, dry spring.

Noticed we are almost full in here so started a new thread, can't do a clicky cos I am a dummy, but it should be at the top of this section.

See you all in the other side, have left a bit of space incase anyone gets lost so we can drag them over.

Hi all how is everyone doing ? I'm a single mum, and drink wine/spirits 5 nights a week and water the drinks down. I'm ashamed to say probably out habit boredom, stress whatever you wanna call it. I only ever have maximum 3 drinks as I wouldn't get drunk While I have children in the house. When children are at their fathers house I do get quite drunk! 🤨is there any other mums who drinks like me who have young children ??
Thanks xx I love the thread and wish I joined sooner xx

Hello Chooco. Welcome to our merry gang.

I am also a single mum, though my DC are older (late teens). I never drank when they were little, though I'd have had every reason to. Keep reading. We are a nice lot (no vipers here ), and we are at our various stages of failing to trying to moderate...

Completely not sober, btw.

Quick skim from me - working all hours and not really moderating.

Dion what are your herbs?

Also what are the books people found useful?

Is this the current thread?
I was absent for a while, while definitely not abstaining!
Need to get myself together again.

Is this thread still active?

I'm not sure. @frouby can you advise.

Maybe try brave babes
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3459735-The-Brave-Babes-Battle-Bus-Step-Into-Our-Christmas-Thread

Hi, we are over on a new thread now but I don't know how to do clicky links, it's in this part of the board and is called something to do with spring or something! Come and find us!

Well good people I have posted here before. I never returned to that thread...I am sorry...truly just too much for me. But I am still drinking but I so desperately want to go to an al anon meeting. But I am honestly scared. I am an introvert to the nth degree (prob explains a lot of my drinking). But can someone please please tell me what happens when you go to an al anon meeting. I am terrified we will all sit around in a circle and my time will come to talk about why I am there. I truly will walk out. I cannot do that.

Lotus, the new thread is here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/alcohol_support/3548949-Tryers-to-be-dryers-spring-into-spring-not-as-much-wine-beer-or-gin-We-sow-our-seeds-of-hope-for-a-dryer-season-but-if-we-drink-its-for-a-reason

I have not tried aa. I looked up the venues etc but didn't go. I'm sure it's a very friendly place though and it must feel scary making that first step.
Have you tried any reading yet? Allen Carr the easy way for women was inspirational for me. It made so much sense.