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Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

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Frouby · 05/02/2019 06:34

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

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Frouby · 21/03/2019 20:55

anglaise forgot to say good luck with the curry book, have used it quite a bit now. I have found doubling the simmer times (stage 1 and stage 2) and also doubling the amount of spices massively improves the flavour and textures but I suppose everyone has different tastes. Definetly when you get to stage 2 simmer until the texture is what you want, not the times it states. I usually simmer and skim for about 25 minutes then simmer and stir occasionally for another 20-25 minutes. And don't skimp on the oil, its massively calorific but you do need it for taste and texture.

Am definitely going to do the blinds myself. 2nd bloke been out. He buys fron the original company that quoted. He got to £70 for a small (120 x 100cm) normal, blackout roller blind that I can buy for £12 and I stopped him. I absolutely agree that companies need to make a profit, we do too, but charging a 500% markup on retail materials is ridiculous.

And I did tell him my budget before he turned up.

So it looks like dh is fitting blinds.

The good news is my bathroom is starting to look nice. I painted it all white, and have white tiles. Have decided that as I have white tiles around half of it and a small basic shower over bath suite I can't easily get that hotel look I wanted so gone with a shabby chic seaside theme.

Have a beach huts shower curtain, a boat mirror, one of those cheesy plaques saying something about life being a beach and a lovely painting of beach huts on the wall. Have ordered all sorts of bits from amazon so when it all comes will take some photos.

It's starting to take shape now anyway. We've lived here 4 years and its all been Egyptian cotton (apart from kids rooms) and just neutral schemes. Fancy jazzing things up a bit now.

Next on shit list is ds room which just needs more storage for a billionty toys and a lick of paint. Then am going to revamp my room. We have that mexican pine bedroom furniture, like that corona range. But its years old and gone quite dark so looks old fashioned. But its still really solid, substantial furniture so am going to try and revamp it. Did dds last year and it looks fab, she wanted it grey so it went from dark pine to a really light grey.

I really want fitted, modular furniture but it's so expensive and we spent too much last year so want to spend as little as possible for the next year or 2. And the furniture is fine, just dated (like me I suppose) so if I can jazz it up and get another couple of years out of it I will be happy.

Not dry (fanny filling Carling ffs) but beyond caring this week. I seem to have 1 good week, 1 bad week. Tomorrow I will have wine, Saturday I will have wine.

Sunday I will be dry and am buying a fuckton of AF beers.

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NC4Now · 21/03/2019 21:00

Ahh thank you Canshop. I really do adore my home. It took so much to get here it's like a big sigh of relief (like the aaaahhhh when your crying baby finally goes to sleep).

My friend is fasting but she does 16:8 rather than 5:2. She only eats between 11am and 7pm. She's a doctor and certainly seems to rate the science.

NC4Now · 21/03/2019 21:14

I didn't hit refresh, so cross posted with everyone.
On clutter - what I omit to mention is I still have a fuck-ton of shite at the old house. I've brought everything I need, and going back there makes me cry, so I'm ignoring it.
I remember looking at the Corona furniture years ago and thinking it was dead trendy, and when I could afford new furniture I'd buy it. I never did, but I reckon it's game for upcycling.
I've bought new living room furniture from Roseland. I'm really happy with it. It isn't expensive but its solid and modern and every time you buy something they give you 20% off your next purchase if you leave a review.
Looking forward to seeing your bathroom pics Frouby. My bathroom is the one room that lets this house down. DS1 is doing plumbing at college and will have to fit a bathroom suite by the end of this term. Do I trust him to do ours? Hmmm...
He's hoping for an apprenticeship next year, so maybe he can do the bulk of it and get his gaffer to finish it off. I need to save up a bit anyway.
Dion how are you tonight lovely? Hope everything's alright.
I'm not AF but not bothered either. I'm winning this week.

Anglaise1 · 21/03/2019 22:09

NC4 do you get 20% off your next furniture purchase if you leave a bad review?? Maybe I'm old fashioned but I think it is totally unethical to offer bribes like that.

Flossie44 · 21/03/2019 22:13

Just checked in quickly after cooking a very late dinner due to dh coming home late. He ate dinner and is now snoring VERY loudly on the sofa, and narrowly escaping being stabbed for doing so!!

Anyway..quietly pissing muself at frouby’s fanny filling carling!! Nothing worse than your fanny getting fat.....!!

Flossie44 · 21/03/2019 22:13
Grin
NC4Now · 21/03/2019 23:01

DS1 fell asleep on the sofa tonight. 3 hours later... Woke up. Swore a lot. Disappeared up to bed. He’s a grumpy sod when he wakes up.

Frouby · 22/03/2019 13:32

NC but its such a lovely looking comfy cosy sofa to fall asleep on, he shouldn't be cross.

Just finished work for the week, thank fuck. Thought it would be quieter after Cheltenham but I have sooooo much to do, plus it's our year end coming up for the business AND the grand national festival in a few weeks. And the start of the sowing season for the allotment and the dcs want to ride over easter so 2 ponies to transform from hairy, muddy slightly feral beasts into sleek, well trained ridden ponies.

I sometimes wish I had 40 hour days, am going to have to start getting up at stupid oclock again.

The furniture does respond well to a bit of upcycling, did dds last year for her. Went from dark pine to light grey in 1 coat of furniture paint, put new handles on and it made a massive difference and actually looks quite smart, better than before. Suspect mine may not get done until wintertime now though, hopefully the weather will be kind this year and we will spend from now until October doing outside things.

Anyway. Have a bottle of wine in the fridge and am going to enjoy it tonight. And probably tomorrow as well, had a good week workwise so think a celebration is in order.

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NC4Now · 22/03/2019 18:13

I think you do still get a discount for a bad review, or it would be totally unethical. Surely there are regulations around these things? There are in my line of work.
I’d love to ride ponies. I’ve done a couple of treks and really enjoyed it. It’s quite an expensive hobby though and I don’t have the resources to look after a horse.
What’s everyone up to tonight? I’m debating wine but it’s habit, not really hankering. What a weird feeling. Maybe the hypnosis is starting to kick in...

Dionysa · 22/03/2019 20:13

NC4, your house is beautiful. No wonder you love it. Mine is less so ATM.

Just reading, but not posting as too many difficult things are going on and I just need to get through them. Not even remotely AF either. Still laughed at the fat fanny, though, Frouby.

Canshopwillshop · 22/03/2019 20:57

Sending lots of love and strength Dionysa

Flossie44 · 22/03/2019 21:12

I’ve come to bed with wine tonight. Dh came home in the worst goading mood ever!! Trying to pick a fight. If I was happy, I was too happy. If I didn’t talk, I was sulking. Etc etc. I couldn’t win. So I calmly poured myself a wine, got him a beer and wandered to bed!! Just sent him a really
Lovely text saying how much I want to support him, how I am leaving him be tonight to process the bad day but if he needs me he knows where I am etc. He’s read it ages ago..and ignored it! Now I’m
foaming at the mouth with anger towards him for being such a dick. His biggest gripe
about work is that it’s such a negative environment, yet he’s literally in his boots, and that’s apparently my fault!! Ffs!! It’s been short of a miracle that I haven’t stuck a straw in the bottle
Of Pinot and had the lot!!!!!

longestlurkerever · 22/03/2019 22:58

Oh Flossie, I would HATE that. If you pick a fight you have to see it through, preferably with hot make up sex at the end.

Hugs to Dion too. Hope things start looking up soon.

I have an old school friend staying for the weekend. We have been poncing around the Tate and Borough Market, then picked up the dc and have been making banners for tomorrow’s march. Taking on Farage one potato print EU flag at a time. Made a pretty nifty lactose and gluten free fish pie from our spoils at Borough Market and opened a nice bottle of wine (ok there were also some leftovers in the fridge).Have £30 worth of steak in the fridge for tomorrow. Got dd1’s tooth referral through for Tuesday. Bit worried about that but dh is taking her while i am on top secret yellow hammer training as per front page of the guardian today.

NC4Now · 23/03/2019 10:51

Oh no Flossie. What an arse. Hope he’s in a better mood today.
Longest I considered going on the march today but it’s a big trek and an expensive train. I signed the petition though. It’s all such a huge mess.
I went from ambivalence to polishing off two bottles of wine last night. That’s just pure greed and boredom. So today has to be AF to give my insides a rest.
Today has started with a massive meltdown from DS2 because his friend cancelled their plans to go to town.

Frouby · 23/03/2019 18:32

Evening all

Flossie men are cunts sometimes. Dh is like a bear with a sore head when work gives him stress, have asked him many a time to walk back out, change his head then come back in, because neither me or the dcs are his emotional punchbags. He has been known to stomp round once too often and told to fuck off out or get a different job if he can't cope with the stress.

If I shouted everytime I was stressed I would have no voice left 😂😂😂.

Just back from dropping a very knackered dd off at my sisters for her sleepover. She has done a 12km hike for d of e. She was adamant she would be fine for the sleepover but I think she is regretting it now 🙉.

So just having a glass of wine. Have just over half a bottle left, am drinking that, having my tea (dh is making steak apparently but can hear him rustling in the takeaway drawer and muttering about kebabs so can see him randomly really fancying one Grin). And then I am going to bed.

And if dh is a snorey fucker, or wakes up at stupid oclock and starts fidgeting about I am getting in dds bed and closing the door on the fucker.

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Dionysa · 23/03/2019 21:16

Just checking in... very big hugs to you, Flossie.

Reading but feeling inadequate as I am failing to moderate at all. Will try again tomorrow.

Frouby, you are v v funny.

longest, I love your Farage comment!

Dionysa · 23/03/2019 21:17

And thank you, Canshop

NC4Now · 23/03/2019 21:31

You’re not inadequate Dion, you’re a work in progress. We all are.
As my wonderful PT used to say (back in the days when I could afford such luxuries) - success is not linear.
I’m reminding myself of this today after last night’s spectacular wobble.

Frouby · 24/03/2019 17:28

Evening all.

No one is inadequate Dion, we are all just works in progress at various stages of completion.

Am stuffed, just had roast pork with all the trimmings. Managed to cook and eat without alcohol so all good.

Dd is thoroughly over exhausted. Had tears earlier at my mams because I suggested she clean the bathroom tomorrow instead of today. Sigh, apparently it's assessment week and she can't cope with the extra pressure.

Been at the allotment the past 2 days , just started to get some seeds started off. It's that time of year when I start juggling seed trays and seedlings and housework and work work and everything gets a bit manic.

Gonna walk the dog, have a bath and an early early night. Got a very busy week coming up.

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NC4Now · 24/03/2019 21:43

I’ve been planting today too Frouby. Only in pots, in my little back yard, but I’ve planted primroses in the wall planters and lavender and rosemary in pots. It did occur to me that I seem to be growing things that go with gin Grin
How are you today Dion? To use a DS1 phrase, you weren’t sounding too groovy yesterday. I hope you’re ok.
I’ve got a dilemma. DS2 was feeling iffy last night, woke up at 3am, puked, and has been fine ever since. Bright as a button.
We don’t do puking in this family, but google/Mumsnet tells me I should keep him off school tomorrow. Seems a bit excessive.... 🤔

Flossie44 · 24/03/2019 21:51

Dion - you are absolutely NOT inadequate. You are a work in progress like the rest of us. And you have a lot of stumbling blocks in your way too. Don’t beat yourself up lovely. If it makes you feel any better at all, I’ve not had a dry night in months and months!!

Frouby - your tales of your culinary accomplishments, make my taste buds tingle. You sound a great cook.
Your poor daughter too. These assessments are tough on them. My dd1 is 13 and is saying this week will be a shit too.

I’m not dry yet again!! Had lovely weekend. Pottered yesterday doing heaps of jobs at home. Hosted a dinner party last night which was really lovely. Was so worried about what to cook though..she’s a veggie, he didn’t eat dairy, my dh doesn’t eat veg (spoilt little boy!). Was a nightmare but turned out fabulous and went really well!!
Had great family day today too. Went out this pm, had pizza exp while out which was yum.
Anyway..big anxiety now as dd2, after 10 weeks at home, is venturing back to school tomorrow. Only mornings but we are keeping everything crossed. Nothing’s changed with regards to her health, but the school is now trained to deal with her. I hope. I’m so scared to say goodbye and wave her off in the morning. I won’t come back home (20 mins away), I will stay close to the school just in case. Just want her to be safe. 😰

NC4Now · 24/03/2019 23:38

Good luck Flossie. I can see how that would be nerve wrecking. Everything crossed that it all goes smoothly.
I need to stay dry for a few more days. I joined a new gym today which I can justify if I cut out five bottles of wine a month. So one a week or a bit over.
It’s only five minutes from home so I’m hoping I go and then feel less inclined to crack open the vino. I preferred my old gym but I hardly get myself over there these days.

Anglaise1 · 25/03/2019 05:47

Hello Tryers
Flossie Good luck for today with DD2 at school, she must be so excited about going back. Fingers crossed she makes it through the day, and you too!
NC4 have you had the results of your blood tests? It's great that you have found a gym nearby, easier to get motivated to go when it isn't a long trek. And well worth 5 bottles of wine.
Frouby you must be so happy to be back outside in the allotment. I love my garden but have 2 acres of grass to cut and although men like sitting on a tractor it is a real PITA for me. Literally. And the grass hasn't stopped growing this year.
Longest how was the march?
Dion I hope you are OK
I didn't have a very wet weekend. We had friends over for dinner Saturday night but I only had one glass of wine as I took DS to the coach for his school ski trip at 1am Sunday morning.
Hoping to be AF for a few days this week. DP really wants to lose some weight and my thyroid treatment is working so I've got to be more careful now as weight is no longer dropping.

leavingAqaba · 25/03/2019 18:51

Hi all. flossie thinking of you for tomorrow. Hope it goes well.

Dionysa · 25/03/2019 19:51

Evening, Tryers.

I have given myself a slap. I feel like a pathetic wreck compared to anyone who manages a day, never mind more - but I can't sit here and feel sorry for myself. Awful things are going on, though it's fair to say that even combined, they don't add up to what Flossie is going through. Speaking of which, I hope your DD managed ok this morning, Flossie. I would have been setting up camp in the school office. Huge hugs to you.

NC4, how is DS2? What did you do in the end? I did laugh, albeit wryly, at your comment about how you used to be able to afford a PT. The things I used to be able to afford. I was telling a friend today that my marital home had five sodding loos. One each, and one spare. I now have one. I didn't half notice this when DD had 12 friends here at the weekend. Though as I told the same friend, I'd rather have one loo and not be married to a shit.

Very much not dry, despite having spent the day resolving to be.

Longest, I hope the tooth appointment goes ok...