Alcohol in pregnancy?

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No bashing please!
I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant with my second baby, on my previous pregnancy I was completely alcohol free, but this time when I was 13 weeks a tragic fatal accident happened to my brother which shocked us all and I fell into depression and started drinking, not to the point of being drunk but sometimes it was a bottle of wine a week and on his funeral I drank four glasses dissarano and cokes. I'm being treated for depression and I'm on the road to recovery, I just feel insane guilt and shame from the drinking, I'm just wondering if there are any mums on here with stories of drinking in pregnancy moderate amounts with completely healthy children?? Please please put my mind at ease.

I have no experience but the chances are your baby will be ok but there are obviously no guarentees.
I've just had a look at Wikipedia and it said that the evidence that less that 10 units a week causes harm is unclear. Whilst a third of alcoholic mothers will give birth to a baby with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. It also says that the most harmful time is in the first trimester.
Overall, your drinking was moderate and obviously not at all at alcoholic levels, and not at the time when your baby was developing most. So it probably will be ok. Please try not to beat yourself up too much more, you had had a very traumatic experience, the stress you are putting yourself under is not going to help your baby at all.
I wish you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy and I'm glad your getting the help you need