Adopting with birth child

[ThenAndNow]

Hello. I'm new here but I've been reading previous threads and would appreciate your advice and input.

My DH and I are starting the home assessment part of the adoption process and have one birth child already aged 7.

Does anyone have any experience of adopting when they already have a birth child? I'm wondering how much more complicated the process might be as I am aware social services will need to take DD's needs into account too.

Is it very difficult to fit an adopted child into a family where there is already a birth child?

I know my DD will find the reality of having a sibling very hard as she is used to being the only one.

Does anyone have any ideas of what we can do at this stage to prepare her. For example, are there any books out there which might be useful?

Thanks in advance!

ChildofIsis - I haven't read the book you mention as a bit scared iyswim. I am thinking of surrogacy in the next yr or two as I can't carry another child myself. Do you think a surrogate child would have the same issues that you have and that are discussed in the book? Sorrogacy is a bit like adopting your own genetic child isn't it?

Hi Rosie

You need to get persmission from MN to recruit in this way.

Fortunately this is an old thread, not netiquette to crash other people's threads on this way.

If MN give you permission you will neee to start your own thread.

HTH