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Contesting Adoption Order

9 replies

Suzybiscuits · 23/10/2025 14:43

Hello,

Long term user here and have found these boards really helpful through out journey, i hope that poster who was struggling with her new placement a while back is doing well but I digress.

Went to court last week and the birth dad wants to contest the adoption order. We are now waiting two weeks to see if this is allowed to be contested. I know everything will be fine but I just need some reassurance from others who have gone through this as we are both in a massive state of anxiousness now waiting to see what happens next….

From what ive read itll either be a flat no, cant contest or some judges will allow it to be in order to show that every single legal avenue has been exhausted before an adoption order is made which does slightly worry me

We have had our littles ones with us for six months now and the birth dad only turned up to family time twice, hasnt engaged with social services since. He tried to oppose the placement order but social services said too late for that. He hasnt spoken to the office or the childrens social worker either about this. Last we heard he was living with a new partner and her children after moving out of hostel.

I know that everything will be fine and they will be with us forever but bloody hell this bit is the hardest bit of the journey so far!

Thanks for reading all that, its felt good getting it all down!

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Torvy · 23/10/2025 18:50

Just a handhold really- it's a horrible part of the journey because although it's one in a million, that one in a million is always somebody, and it is terrifying that it could potentially be you. Your mind races and all the worst case scenarios cross your mind.

However, from what you are saying, the chances seem infinitesimal. Keep your head up and keep moving, the time will be over before you know it!

Noimaginationforaun · 24/10/2025 13:42

I remember this feeling so well! Our son’s birth mum even had extra court dates in after lying to her solicitor. It was crazy. Keep powering through.

Seahorsesplendour · 25/10/2025 07:05

It is awful , we had the same but the request was rejected crossing fingers the same happens for you so you’re not waiting too long . ❤️ I really tried to focus on the day to day chaos to take my mind of it but it’s so hard!

Pumpkinallspice · 28/10/2025 06:55

Remember thus is proof that he is not able to prioritise your children.

Fingers crossed for everything for you. Its such a hard process.

Italiangreyhound · 26/12/2025 21:07

Hope all goes well.

Pryceosh1987 · 27/12/2025 00:46

Bonding with children comes with experience and with being relatable. I believe.

Suzybiscuits · 27/12/2025 20:20

Hello!

happy update, order granted on the 23/12! Great Christmas present.

The hearing to see whether the BD was allowed to contest was a rollercoaster, and the judge took around 30mins to sum everything up with us not knowing what way it was going to go at all until the end! So all in all, only two months from the first hearing to getting the adoption order which although very stressful at the time is incredibly short I think!

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Seahorsesplendour · 28/12/2025 21:38
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@Suzybiscuits amazing news!!!! Really pleased to hear it 😍

Italiangreyhound · 28/12/2025 22:36

Brilliant news. Love and peace for the new year.

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