Hi all, after a long journey of 7 miscarriages and now a struggle to conceive at all we have arrived at a decision to adopt.
We do my some miracle have one DS (nearly 5), she is desperate for a sibling but I do imagine the reality of sharing her parents after 5 years may come as a shock for her.
Our LA says of their early permanence placements (where you foster a very young child who is likely, but not guaranteed, to need to adopted) 97% end up with the fosterparents adopting. This is of course reassuring but I've been in the 1% with recurrent miscarriages and know if things don't go our way this won't be much of a comfort.
We want to go this route to reduce (some) of the trauma for the child and reduce the chances of the adoption breaking down. I know there are lots of unknowns.
Has anyone gone down this route and could you share your experience? The timescales for legal processes seem to vary wildly and it would be do helpful to hear how this went for others.