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Adoption after fertility treatment

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organicapricot · 07/05/2019 20:56

Hello, just wondering how long a SW would consider long enough after ivf treatment to begin the adoption process? We are attending an information evening soon so very early days. I appreciate it may be mindset more than an exact time period but just keen to hear others experiences.

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Italiangreyhound · 07/05/2019 21:26

I think it is usually 6 months.

Minnie881 · 07/05/2019 21:34

Basically until you have come to terms with not having birth children, minimum 6 months but for some may be longer depending on whether counselling is needed etc.

It's tough I know, best to be ready though.

Italiangreyhound · 07/05/2019 21:41

I thought I was ready for adoption but ended up going back to fertility treatment. When I finally did stop for 2nd tie. I waa ready. But social workers will most likely ask for a set time. You can awaystae longer if You need.

I was ready but I think gettigocer feryiity issues can are a long while.

We have a very child ad a adopted child. It is not easy but I didn't change it.

Looking back I was ready the second time.

Italiangreyhound · 07/05/2019 21:44

Sorry, typos!

I was ready but I think getting over fertility issues can take a long while.

We have a birth child and an adopted child. It is not easy but I wouldn't change it.

Runner31 · 08/05/2019 05:39

We stopped IVF in March and I called SW in early April. I knew I was ready to move on and wanted to find out what the process is. I was told that they ask for a minimum of 6 months BUT..... they treat every case individually and recognise that some people will have grieved their loss of a biological family quicker than others. We were told that as it takes 6 months to be approved if they are happy with out states of minds we could start the process now. We have a meeting with the SW team manager today but have had two phone calls with SW's and they seem happy enough with us. I have really come to terms with where we are and that a biological family isn't in our future so I'm going out of my way to show the SW team that we have really thought this through.

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organicapricot · 08/05/2019 07:47

Thanks everyone. Thats helpful. Our IVF failed in March and we are not sure if we want to go through it again. Our aim is to have a family not just for me to be pregnant with my own child so adoption seems to be a good option for us but of course need to be 100% committed to it. The information evening is next week and excited to find out more.

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Italiangreyhound · 08/05/2019 08:05

Good luck.

LiverpoolVictoria · 08/05/2019 10:29

As Italian has said, it is a minimum of 6 months.

We waited a year, not purposely but it just happened like that.

IVF failed, we were told our chances of conceiving via IVF and naturally were the same (3% or something) and that was that.

We went on holiday, didn't even discuss babies for a year (after 3 years of miscarriages, operations, IVF etc we needed to just not think about it).
We were due to go on holiday and I was planning to bring adoption up while we were away. A week before we went an advert for an adoption evening came on the car radio and my OH said 'Why don't we go to that?', and it all fell into place. ☺

Runner31 · 09/05/2019 21:58

Good luck at the information evening. We had our first meeting with social work yesterday and IVF is not an issue at all. We also stopped in March so are only 2 months after the end of our last treatment and they are very happy to start the application and hope to get us to panel by November. They did say we will be asked a lot about IVF and how we came to terms with not having a biological family but it's full steam ahead for us.

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organicapricot · 09/05/2019 22:44

Thanks for your responses. As much as I don't want to rush into anything, I also don't want to wait much longer to have a little family.

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Runner31 · 10/05/2019 07:06

I know that feeling. After years of wishing and hoping for something I have no control over it's much better feeling more in control of our future and our journey towards being a family.

LittleMissBrainy · 11/05/2019 20:14

We didn't have to wait six months. We finished IVF in May, started the process in September and had our first LO placed with us the following August. However we had only been through one round and had decided before our last embryos went in, we wouldn't be going through IVF again. Whilst we felt we owed it to the embryos to try our hardest to get pregnant, we had definitely made up our minds and if it didn't work, Adoption would be the way forward.

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