Must be one of my biggest pet hates! Our DS (5) is a 'coper' he gets on with things, he doesn't cry and doesn't say when he's worried, scared, upset....therefore I've learnt to read between the lines. So when people around me (teachers, family, friends etc) 'he's fine' YES the majority of the time he is a happy little boy, but I can TELL when he's anxious!
Take for example his breakfast clubs, I know he enjoys these as he loves playing with his friends, but they do what's called 'active breakfast' - all of the children join in with this, DS just wont. Which is fine but I often leave him just stood there on his own :( I once tried to take him through myself to join in and was told I couldn't! They took his hand and wandered off! He needs his 'hand held' so to speak before he will just join in with anything like this. Therefore I've had to call the school to ensure they do this with him!
But then I just get from them 'hes fine' etc etc etc....no doubt he settles after I'm gone, but what if he's like that the whole time and seems to be fine when he's not!?
Sorry I am just on a rant this morning as I get so so fed up of people just saying he is FINE all of the time! I can even tell in his speech/mannerisms etc when he's anxious, people just think I'm an over stressing, worrying mum! :S