I just watched this amazing, very short, clip on empathy. I think it says a lot about a whole bunch of situations, not just adoption but maybe including adoption. It is well worth the 2.5 minutes it takes to watch it.
www.upworthy.com/my-wife-didnt-get-why-i-was-so-into-this-woman-but-after-about-40-seconds-we-were-both-obsessed?g=2&c=upw1