I have told her to be tough.
The teacher has said "your dd puts everyone else before herself, she needs to think of no. one more." So she knows and it has been mentioned before. I will get it sorted. I like the mother, she is nice, the child is actually OK, has been for a sleepover before, but it's all too much for dd ATM.
It will be OK. I will update later in the week, month year....