Please take the term “narcissist” with a pinch of salt, as I’m simplifying a lot for sure. I know that this will probably sound like I’m an idiot.
My sister is probably the most selfish person I ever met, and I think I only realised this when I met my now ex husband. I don’t want to go into detail but she manages to ruin and upset anything to ensure that it serves her needs, and I don’t she has ever lifted a finger to do something for my parents or I.
My now ex husband always hated her and still seems irrationally irate about her years after we split. We remained good friends and he has now kicked off after I told him about my sister’s latest antics and he’s had a go at her and they butted heads which is causing tension.
Whilst I appreciate his support, I have also told him to back off because it’s causing problems with my wider family. The problem is that I know that he will be absolutely horrific and destructive to her once her and that it will be blamed on me.
She has dirt on him, too, but I just know that he will not stop once he gets started. He has never been abusive to me and was always protective but this is going a bit too far now because it will hurt my wider family.