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If most people generally want to avoid low-paid jobs, unemployment, or financial struggle, why is open contempt towards people in those situations often seen as socially unacceptable?

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YourWaryPlumBalonz · 18/10/2026 19:32

For example, if someone is unemployed because they failed all their exams or made poor life choices, why is it considered wrong to laugh at them or look down on them?
I'm not talking about people who are disabled, seriously ill, or caring for relatives. I mean cases where people would argue the person had opportunities but didn't take them.
Is it because:
We don't actually know the full story behind someone's circumstances?
People think poverty or unemployment is punishment enough without adding humiliation?
Most people believe everyone's life can go wrong more easily than they realise?
Or is it simply considered bad manners to show contempt, even if you think the situation is partly self-inflicted?
Interested in how others see it.

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ManManManManMan · 18/10/2026 19:39

Why is it considered wrong to laugh at people? Was this post written by a robot trying to understand humans?

Shouldbedoing · 18/10/2026 19:41

Have you been drinking? You seem to have lost your thin veneer of humanity.

hotmumshit · 18/10/2026 19:41

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XenoBitch · 18/10/2026 19:43

I don't think contempt towards people in those circumstances is acceptable.

SuperGinger · 18/10/2026 19:44

No one laughs but people need to own their mistakes and other people shouldn't need to subsidise them.

XenoBitch · 18/10/2026 19:45

SuperGinger · 18/10/2026 19:44

No one laughs but people need to own their mistakes and other people shouldn't need to subsidise them.

Being in low paid work is not a mistake. We need people in the low paid jobs.

HappyViewer · 18/10/2026 19:45

Why have you started two very similar threads?

PeasOff · 18/10/2026 19:51

YourWaryPlumBalonz · 18/10/2026 19:32

For example, if someone is unemployed because they failed all their exams or made poor life choices, why is it considered wrong to laugh at them or look down on them?
I'm not talking about people who are disabled, seriously ill, or caring for relatives. I mean cases where people would argue the person had opportunities but didn't take them.
Is it because:
We don't actually know the full story behind someone's circumstances?
People think poverty or unemployment is punishment enough without adding humiliation?
Most people believe everyone's life can go wrong more easily than they realise?
Or is it simply considered bad manners to show contempt, even if you think the situation is partly self-inflicted?
Interested in how others see it.

Because being a dickhead is generally frowned upon.

LaurieFairyCake · 18/10/2026 20:03

Because it saps your soul and just makes you cunty

NoisyMonster678 · 18/10/2026 20:27

Because it is cruel

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