Delivering joy argument with friend

[mamaof4losingmymind]

Me and my friend where in dunelm and she grabbed 4 tags from the delivering joy tree i was quite suprised as she doesn't have much money. I took 1 for a little boy and spent about £50 she was showing me what she got and she had bought cheap crap not what the actual kid had asked for probably spent less then £10 on each kid and I tried to point it out and she said well they should be greatful for anything they get if it wasn't for me they wouldn't be getting anything. I just think if you can't afford and aren't going to do it properly leave thr tags for people who are

I agree, if you cant afford to buy what the kid asks for then leave it for someone else to choose.

The mindset that kids in awful situations should be grateful for any old crap because your friend wants to feel warm and fuzzy about herself is hideous.

Exactly and I bet she will be telling everyone what a great thing she has done. Its really pissed me off.

I’m guessing the organisers will check the gifts and make sure they are appropriate for each recipient before gifting them.

£10 gifts are still nice and I’m sure they will find a nice home. What tat does Dunelm have for £10?

She didn't buy it from dunelm

I've had to distribute these secret gifts and the look on kids' faces when they open their present and see complete crap. We had one for a child 5-12 that contained an adult-sized apron from a holiday resort in Spain. Talk about rubbing the child's nose in it.

This year I've requested that our organisation doesn't ask for gifts because last year's were so inappropriate.

I honestly can't understand what people are thinking

No idea about the Dunelm scheme but the one I've experienced accepted wrapped gifts labelled eg Boy aged 3-5.

Wrapped gifts then given to the children with no check on contents

She does seem to have missed the point. Mind you, my local toybank have donation points where you can literally go and donate new and second hand toys - presumably volunteers then have to sort through it all and check it's all intact before deciding who it goes too. Not sure if that's better. They also have an amazon wishlist, which I tend to order from - at least I know they think it'll be wanted.

I think donation points where you put the item in the box unwrapped are far better. The gifts can then be sorted and distributed to recipients they are appropriate for or bundled if there are lots of smaller items.

its also a great idea to have a list of suggested items. In my experience, there’s always loads of items that are suitable for younger kids, but less for those older than around 5/6.

If I recall correctly dunelm ask you to pop them in a gift bag so I assume they check the gift is what has been asked for. Maybe they chuck the tags back out on the tree if not?

Yeah there not wrapped hopefully they will add to it or reuse the tag I would hate to think off any off these kids opening what she bought

That is not good at all. The gifts should at least be unwrapped, so that they can be checked for safety, suitability, etc.