Neighbours or parents from children’s school not saying hello

[buttery8]

I find this odd. I now live in a suburb of a small city, originally from a small village. I’ve travelled a lot and worked overseas but honestly where I live now I’ve never encountered anything like it where neighbours in my small cul de sac don’t say hello when walking past each other directly. And since my children have started school I’ve really made an effort to chat to other parents at pick up/drop off, at parties, they seem fine at the time but then will completely walk past me when walking directly past each other, even on a small narrow path when it is just us 2. I find it so strange, these are people I’ve had nice chats with and see regularly at kids parties. I just find it so rude and what sort of example are they setting to their children. I know people have anxiety, adhd, etc but these are people with good jobs who deal with other people in work so why can’t they acknowledge people they walk past? Growing up where I’m from my mum would make me acknowledge everyone she knew even from when I was little, it was a bit much to be honest but it did teach me social skills.

It actually makes me sad for future generations that people can’t just be courteous to each other.

You are walking right past people you know from school and saying hi and not one of them reply??

That does sound odd. I say morning to complete strangers and they reply.

I look to make eye contact and smile and they just look straight ahead or look down. Not all but quite a few

So are you not saying hello either?

I try to make eye contact and smile but they look straight ahead or at the floor, just find it odd

I find it odd that every single person you pass is doing this. I would say hello to them and see what happens.

What I'm getting from this is you're not saying hello, either.

I'm very friendly and say hello to anyone, but I still find it hard to look people directly in the eye.

Not every single person but quite a few. Surely you have to glance at someone if you want to say hello. The ones from the school are people I’ve initiated conversations with at the school and at kids parties, etc, but when they see me they look down or straight ahead, not all but quite a few

Very odd for it to be happening to you so much and so often.

Is it just you that they're like this with?

But you don't say hallo either.

Are you in the SE?

And yes, you don't need to make eye contact before saying hello or good morning.

The greeting is what will prompt them to look up.

I find this too at the school gate ! Although I do know there is a bit of a clique that I am not in so I'm aware these people already have their "friends" most my neighbours are very friendly though.

Sometimes they’re wearing headphones 😅 even with headphones on I still manage to smile at people and nod. Sometimes they see me walking towards them and then look down or get their phones out so I take that as they don’t want to say hello. I don’t know if they’re like this with others. Some are lovely it’s not all at all but maybe around half of my neighbours and parents I’ve initiated convos with before

Yeah I think maybe because I’m new to the area and they’re not friends with me they don’t want to bother but then will chat to me about parties and stuff, I just find it odd/rude

Unfortunately it does sound as though they have a problem with you personally then.

Yeah seems to be, no idea why though I haven’t had enough contact with them to offend them 😅 just nice polite convos at parties, school gate