"Each to their own"

[GoddammitDonut]

Has this phrase even been uttered and not been in a snooty git way?

i know people don’t think that’s how they’re saying it but I’ve yet to read or hear it and not think that actually they think the other person is WRONG but they just can’t bring themselves to argue with someone so foolish.

Don’t agree really. A lot of people are quite accepting that others have a different way of doing things.

This is a nice phrase. Why try to turn it into something negative?

Well, that's usually what I mean when I use it on MN. I completely disagree but I haven't got time / can't be bothered to argue. In real life, much depends on the tone of voice.

it genuinely depends imo.

Some people simply use it when they want or need to shut down that conversation.
When your racist aunt seems about to get started and you just know that you can’t endure a sermon (and that objecting will simply make her more heated and passionate)? „To each their own“ can be quite helpful.

In those cases it’s used by those trying to protect their own peace and sanity. And not to be snooty…

But I’m a native German speaker so that phrase has different connotations for me (at least in German). So there’s that.

I agree with you OP. I see it a lot on some of the facebook groups (I know!) I am in for a hobby, where people will often have different view points and ways of doing things, or on local groups.

I don't use the phrase myself, but I always think it comes across as dismissive when written down, almost as if the user is condescending the person they say it to, like they want to say something like "my opinion/way of doing this is better, but I can't be bothered to explain to you why".

It sounds better when said, instead of when it's written down, as the tone of voice used is important.

No, it's a great phrase.

There are still some people who can accept different people see and do things differently.

They're not all using it 'snootily'.

I was about to say most of you must know much nicer people than me but then I remembered I rarely Outside so the people I’m talking about are all online and well…