I’m late 20s and hoping to hear from people more experienced than I am. I have a friend who I went to school with, we were quite close and I miss her. I’d say is she is a pretty poor friend to me now, but in my head I still remember us being really close. So I’m probably looking at the friendship with rose tinted glasses, as opposed to what it is now, and I feel conflicted about what to do.
We used to be close and speak everyday day, go on holiday together, spend time with each other’s family etc but essentially our friendship has now turned into me constantly paying for her on the rare occasions I do see her, and her ignoring my messages about everyday life and her only contacting me if she needs something. I live in a touristy area in England for example, and she’ll message me if she wants to stay over with no payment bc she doesn’t want to pay for a hotel.
She shows no interest in my life otherwise and any conversation we have revolves around issues she has at work / in her relationship in the sense of her saying she has bigger problems than I do. For example if I say things are busy at work, she’ll say it can’t be that bad as she’s a nurse and saving lives etc so she has it worse and gets back pain from handling patients etc so why am I complaining. it gets a bit one sided like that. i feel like she constantly compares herself to me in that sense. She’s never happy for me either even though I’m always there for her & celebrate her successes.
so I’m in a weird place now where up until now, I’d have probably have thought she was a friend but now I probably don’t see her that way. But I don’t know whether to send her a message or just fade her out.