Really shouldn’t get furious at idiots on Twitter who think mothers take too much care of their kids, should I.

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Am reading far too much rancid trash on Twitter. I apologise for bringing it here.

‘Dads’ (or rage baiters) smugly saying they are much better than ‘moms’ at being parents and that the whole ‘can’t go to the toilet alone’ problem is women being silly.

Fuck ‘em all. Too many incidents just in my own life when Dh, who was a lovely man, was clueless at looking after ds. Left him with a stranger so he didn’t have to take him into a shop. Gave him nappy rash because it just didn’t occur to him to change a soaked nappy. I just want to give all the manosphere rage baiters the finger.

I really must stop going on there.

There's no point in getting furious at idiots on Twitter full stop. Whatever they are talking about, it will be utter rubbish.

No one should be suggesting that all mums or dads are useless, based on their own partner. But by engaging with them, you're only upsetting yourself.

I think there is middle ground here. My husband is perfectly competent and would never do any of the things you described, but he does have a different approach to me that is probably a bit more chilled. It's funny how this has stayed the same throughout our "parenting journey" even though we now have one young adult.

Generally, I'd say I want to spare my babies the pain of failure, so I will intervene if they are doing something in a way that won't achieve what I know to be their goal. He, on the other hand, thinks that viewing their efforts as a failure is a learned thing. Babies are a blank slate and unless you teach them otherwise, it is just trial and error for them. It doesn't have the emotional weight that I give it. I don't want them to give up out of frustration, though.

Over years, we have found a happy medium with this. He sees that someone can become demoralised when they are trying to do something that is perhaps out of their depth, and I see that my 18 month old won't become clinically depressed if they spend 5 mins trying to do something themselves.

Most of the posts on Twitter aren't even real. They are bots made with Tweepy just to wind you up.

You really need to understand this dynamic or you will completely fall for it over and over.