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‘Bingo wings’ - what worked?

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flyawaylittlebird · 05/09/2026 17:22

I know, I know, I shouldn’t care but do. If anyone’s had any surgical or non-surgical tweaks eg Medspa laser type things that actually helped the loose upper arm skin, please let me know what you tried!

I’m doing all the best things for my body - balanced diet, plenty of exercise including weightlifting (not what would be called ‘heavy’ but I’m making progress) lots of walking, no smoking or drinking alcohol, protein, fibre etc. I’ve always done this but really upped it since peri hit. I’m on HRT and seemingly found the right balance, so I have energy for the gym and weights, but it feels a bit like fighting a losing battle. But despite increased weights and sessions, my upper arms have become very saggy and it’s really getting me down.

I lift regularly including a range of upper body and tricep focused moves, I can feel that I am getting stronger which is great, but no visible toning and the flab and skin looks really awful. I have read that sometimes no amount of diet or exercise can help if it’s to do with the skin itself. So any advice about treatments or other options will be gratefully received! Thanks.

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TrojanDonkey · 05/09/2026 22:49

Overhead tricep extension on the cable weight machine! Works all three areas.

I follow various PTs on Instagram to work out the best exercises for the areas I want to improve, probably slightly obsessively… 😂

Vulturesoverhead · 06/09/2026 13:08

I think it’s the last bit to respond OP. Def keep at it.

I do 4 x a week
10 full arm tri extensions on the floor 5kg
5 tri press up at a good distance from the wall (took me ages) now going to go on the floor
10 tri bench dips

plus sets of: shoulder press 7kg , hammer curls 9kg. Bicep curls 7kg, full floor press-ups, lat raises 5kg, full arm front and side raises 3kg - after a broken collar bone these are taking ages to improve.

Anyway, my point is lots of arm stuff and time was what eventually worked.

Daisy03 · 06/09/2026 13:19

Heavy weights but not just focusing on the bicep and Tricep, shoulder and back exercise to build those areas as well, rear delt flies, shoulder presses, side raises and rows

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lippylip · 06/09/2026 13:20

Anyone recommend a good Youtuber for arms, I don’t really like CG

Disturbia81 · 06/09/2026 14:35

Working out! Thought mine were forever but filled them with muscle and they’re tight now.

MeridaBrave · 06/09/2026 14:39

flyawaylittlebird · 05/09/2026 21:41

@Over40Overdating I’m doing all of those 😭 except round the world, shall Google that. I’m progressively overloading too. I can feel myself getting stronger but the arms just seem to get looser.

@MeridaBrave maybe cables is the answer. I can never get near them at my gym sadly, there’s just not enough. I’ve been googling variations with resistance bands.

My lats and biceps look pretty cool, so that’s something. If I could just find some way to harness the flappy bit up snugly back where it used to be, I’d be so happy.

If you can’t do cables try

kickbacks (dumbells)
skullcrushers (bar)
extensions (dumbbell)
presses (bar)

I think also work on delts lats and biceps (also fulls the arms)

flyawaylittlebird · 06/09/2026 18:44

MeridaBrave · 06/09/2026 14:39

If you can’t do cables try

kickbacks (dumbells)
skullcrushers (bar)
extensions (dumbbell)
presses (bar)

I think also work on delts lats and biceps (also fulls the arms)

Thanks! I actually made it to a cable machine today, the bros must have all been having Sunday lunch.

I think keeping on keeping on must be the answer. Also increasing the weight and reps if I can. I have an old shoulder injury so I really notice the weakness on that side, but it’s coming on.

@Vulturesoverheadthank you for sharing your routine, that really helps. I don’t think I’m too far behind even though I think of myself as being fairly weak on upper body. Currently I can only manage 5kg for kickbacks, 3-4kg for extensions and skullcrushers on bench/floor. Bodyweight dips are fine plus I can do 4-5kg weighted dips for a fair few reps. Shoulder press 5-6kg. Rows, weighted squats, split squats and hammer curls 8kg. Then on the machines - biceps 20kg, seated lats 28kg, rowing 21kg, chest press 21kg.

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IwanttoWFH · 06/09/2026 19:13

I lost weight and my “bingo wings” were flabby, I was seriously considering an arm lift, but the scars really put me off.
I told myself I’d give it another year of weightlifting and they did improve. Like other posters, I lift as heavy as I can and progress slowly by increasing the weight. It has really helped. I’ve been weightlifting for nearly three years now and it’s a work in progress.
Saying that, if it’s lots of loose skin, an arm lift might be the only option for tight arms.

TrojanDonkey · 06/09/2026 23:18

I love the cable machine, you can cover pretty much everything with it.

suki1964 · 06/09/2026 23:49

@flyawaylittlebird the best Collagen is from the protein you already eat

A popular dish here where I live is veggie broth, its on every menu, every family has their own recipe , its part and parcel of life.

So I make it, but I use bone in chicken thighs. I pressure cook 200gr of dried soup mix - which is a mix of dried peas and barley , with a pack of chicken thighs and 50gr of dried red lentils., 4 or 5 litres of stock/water for 15 mins., When that's done I scoop out the thighs, and add at least 500gr of chopped leeks, 4 or 5 chopped carrots and celery sticks, a pile of parsley, and PC for another 10 mins. Strip the thighs of the skin and bone and add back to the broth.

The bone and cartilidge has broken down through the cooking and is now in that broth . Easily digestible by your body, full of protein and fibre

Then lift with palms out - dont ask me the moves cos Ive only been lifting a short while, but I as a 62 year old saggy sad sack really feels and notices the difference when lifting palms facing up

CoffeeandCakeBreak · 07/09/2026 00:03

Another vote for heavy weight here. You need to keep upping the weights and progressing. I do body pump heavy and we have all been using 10kg weights for the tricep track and she is now making us all hold a 1.25kg and the 10kg weight at the same time for overhead tricep extensions! I struggle to hold the little one due to small hands, so I will be doing 12.5kg next week.

I was a size 16, but lost weight to a size 10. My arms aren't super lean, but they definitely aren't bingo wings territory either. I am an hour glass so at a size 16 I was small waisted but carried weight everywhere else, and felt I had disproportionately large arms. I don't mind my arms now, and they seem more proportionate to the rest of me. Absolutely still aiming for nice lean toned arms though

TrojanDonkey · 07/09/2026 09:10

I don’t use the free weights, only the machines.

But doing things like cable glute squats, cable standing side twists, pallof press, also works my arms as well as my torso/glutes. I also do lat pull downs and the assisted dip machine.

WildLeader · 07/09/2026 09:12

tanoshi · 05/09/2026 18:26

Creatine.
In your protein shake.
Drink more water
Continue with tricep exercises.
The water shift should help.

This.

and battle ropes 😂

henlake7 · 07/09/2026 10:39

If you are normal weight and exercising already then surgery is the only option after that.
I have terrible bingo wings. I lost loads of weight and weight train 3 times a week but my arms were always where I carried weight so now I have nice toned arm muscles....with enough loose skin to be part flying squirrel!😆

flyawaylittlebird · 07/09/2026 20:58

henlake7 · 07/09/2026 10:39

If you are normal weight and exercising already then surgery is the only option after that.
I have terrible bingo wings. I lost loads of weight and weight train 3 times a week but my arms were always where I carried weight so now I have nice toned arm muscles....with enough loose skin to be part flying squirrel!😆

Nooo don’t say this! Everyone else is saying weights will save the day 😂

I was seriously hoping there’s some magic fat deleting laser or seaweed wrap or something that MNetters were keeping secret.

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whatsnewbuttercup · 07/09/2026 21:24

I’ve had good results with Prai upper arm cream. I’ve been applying it religiously twice a day and have seen great improvement since starting around two months ago.

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