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Things you remember being shocked or surprised to learn at school

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scalt · 24/08/2026 08:20

Some basic facts you learn at school can be really shocking when you first hear them, and this was long before the Horrible Histories books. Some of the OMG moments I remember were:

Punishments in Victorian schools, such as being hauled up to the ceiling.

The Incan punishment of holding a child over a fire of chilli peppers, so they would inhale the smoke.

Swarms of locusts destroying all greenery in minutes.

The story of Abraham nearly sacrificing his son Isaac. (Yes I know, it’s a Bible story which probably didn’t happen, but in my primary school days, it was almost presented as fact, before teachers had to say “some people believe”).

Of course, a teacher would normally explain these without any emotion at all, and somehow this made them all the more astounding, that they didn’t seem bothered at all.

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TheDenimPoet · 24/08/2026 18:51

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 24/08/2026 09:43

This always makes me so angry. Right let's shun and shame unmarried women for getting pregnant but at the same time let's not allow them something that would stop that happening.

We had to petition the school to let us wear trousers in winter instead of skirts and this was 1995!

Our school only allowed girls to start wearing trousers in 2002 (we campaigned for it).

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 18:51

roundabouttheforstday · 24/08/2026 18:44

History teacher who was from Germany showed us a documentary that was shown in her school in Germany with interviews from German soldiers who survived WW2. It was horrific what they said and made me realise they were just young scared boys just like our British lads

I read that the youngest German soldiers in World War II were just 12 years old in the final months. So heartbreaking!

Optimisticdramalarma · 24/08/2026 19:10

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 17:39

For a ‘useless’ daughter, Elizabeth I (Good Queen Bess) was considered one of England’s greatest monarchs!

I know!

She's my fave queen but at her birth,she was considered 'useless'

Funny how life turns out

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MildlyAnnoyed · 24/08/2026 19:18

When I first worked (nursing home) there was a woman who’d been institutionalised her whole life because she had a baby out of wedlock. I also learnt that hysteria was a genuine reason women were institutionalised also. Being gay was a mental illness up until 1992.

Latenightreader · 24/08/2026 19:24

I remember being shocked to discover that other countries had also had extensive empires. Not shocked exactly, but a bit outraged that this hadn't been mentioned before, and thinking it made sense of a lot of things. I think it was the first year or so of secondary school.

slughater · 24/08/2026 19:28

I'm dismayed to hear of all the girls having to fight the trouser battle so recently- we did this in the early 70s (and won)
would be an interesting project to map the acceptability of girls school uniform trousers over time

38thparallel · 24/08/2026 19:29

I wonder what, in 50 years, people will be saying they were shocked by 50 years ago.

Traypaint · 24/08/2026 19:37

I was maybe 6 or 7 when another child told me what "having it off" involved. I didn't believe him. It seemed like such a ridiculous thing to do 😆

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 19:41

slughater · 24/08/2026 19:28

I'm dismayed to hear of all the girls having to fight the trouser battle so recently- we did this in the early 70s (and won)
would be an interesting project to map the acceptability of girls school uniform trousers over time

At my secondary school all the girls gingham blouses were made in Needlework classes. You couldn’t buy them in shops, only from the school.

AssassinsEyebrow · 24/08/2026 19:52

TheDenimPoet · 24/08/2026 18:51

Our school only allowed girls to start wearing trousers in 2002 (we campaigned for it).

We petitioned our school a few later and it was rejected!

The school finally gave in after I left.

TigerRag · 24/08/2026 20:07

TheDenimPoet · 24/08/2026 18:51

Our school only allowed girls to start wearing trousers in 2002 (we campaigned for it).

This was just before I started but I remember someone telling me that girls at my secondary school had to campaign for trousers for girls

RosesAndHellebores · 24/08/2026 20:21

It's a bit of a looking back one and at the time it was just awkward and repugnant without understanding why.

That a PE teacher with a man's haircut, who wore brogues and a tweed skirt suoy whilst striding into school, was allowed to supervise young women in the shower, carefully watching, to make sure they were fully stripped. She also delighted on educating us about the growth of breasts, pubic hair and periods and veruccas and BO.

There would be a safeguarding report now, and probably in the 90s/00s.

1971 to 1976 for me. I think it retired in about 1985. Its pronouns in today's world would definitely not be "she/her". I honestly didn't realise the grossness until I went to a different school for 6th form.

Vile.

12234m · 24/08/2026 20:36

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 10:40

Did anyone else wear black ‘gym knickers’ for indoor PE? I never understood why we couldn’t wear our PE skirt! Boys wore shorts!

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And still boys wear shorts down to the knees but girls have to wear ones that barely cover their backside.

6ate9 · 24/08/2026 20:46

12234m · 24/08/2026 20:36

And still boys wear shorts down to the knees but girls have to wear ones that barely cover their backside.

That’s awful! The PE kit is the same for boys and girls at the secondary school my niece goes to. They have a choice of shorts and trousers.

Macaronnn · 24/08/2026 20:56

user85642879067 · 24/08/2026 09:57

That not everyone had a loving family - it was a horrible shock when I got to secondary school from our lovely village primary school where everyone knew one another to find kids with no nuclear family, abusive/absent non - interested parents. Not sure much has changed in the last 30yrs either…

Just because a child doesn't have a 'nuclear' family doesn't mean they aren't fulfilled and from a loving home. Your comment is quite jarring and arrogant. I lived with my mother who loved and sacrificed so much for me. My father lived with his second wife and children and because of how toxic he is, the wife became an alcoholic and the kids (now in their 20's) have no friends, hobbies or a job and suffer with mental health issues. Don't assume a nuclear family is always perfect.

Macaronnn · 24/08/2026 21:08

Work houses, how families were separated and children forced to work in horrendous conditions. I was also shocked about the etymology of hysteria and how it was treated.

Justploddingonandon · 24/08/2026 21:15

That up until the mid 20th century a quarter of children would die before their 5th birthday. The teacher had us look around the class and imagine that 6-7 of us wouldn’t be there.
we also had the trousers battle when I was at school in the 90s, think I was year 9 when the school gave in.
Not in school, but I do remember my mum telling me that they could finally afford to buy their first house somewhere in the mid-70s as the mortgage company would take into account her salary (they wouldn’t before).

LifeBeginsToday · 24/08/2026 21:25

That not everyone in the country had free music lessons. We moved from the north to the south and I had to stop my music lessons because we couldn't afford them. "What do you mean we can't afford them, they are free!".

CurdinHenry · 24/08/2026 21:28

That nuclear bombs can blow your skin off so you're walking around trailing it from your heels

Or burn your eyeballs in their sockets

Tldr a lot of nuclear bomb stuff that made me wonder why people kept breeding in the 70s and 80s THANKS PARENTS

bloominoreilly · 24/08/2026 21:36

In junior school, learning that one day the sun will burn up the earth - this blew my mind/brought on an existential crisis & was prob the beginnings of me losing any religious/spiritual beliefs

Any1ForTennis · 24/08/2026 21:37

Modern Studies class in 1991, around 60 kids aged 11/12 in our year group with class sizes of around 20.

Teacher told us that by the law of averages as least one of our year group would be dead within 10 years and probably 3 within 20 years. We were all looking round each other thinking WTF! (Great teacher btw but weird teaching style!)

In hindsight, she was correct. Out of about 60 kids in my year group:-

1 died from cancer at 19
1 died falling down a set of stairs (totally sober, just tripped)
1 died climbing in himalayas (body never found)
2 died from drugs issues

All before we turned 30!

Any1ForTennis · 24/08/2026 21:42

Traypaint · 24/08/2026 19:37

I was maybe 6 or 7 when another child told me what "having it off" involved. I didn't believe him. It seemed like such a ridiculous thing to do 😆

I remember my school friend explaining anal sex when I was around 10, we had recently discovered that homosexuality was a thing so guessing we were trying to figure out what gay men got up to.

I absolutely 100% did not believe a word of it 😆. Just as well we then started reading Just 17 and More to find out about all this stuff!

Muncie · 24/08/2026 21:45

I can still remember the shock I had when I was taught at school that the river Thames was pronounced Tems - I was a great reader in those days and in my mind it was pronounced as I read it! Took me a long time to get over that one.

Timeforatincture · 24/08/2026 21:53

I'd heard about PIV as the way to make babies, but found it a bit confusing as I knew, more or less, what penises were like and it made no sense. Like getting toothpaste back in the tube. It wasn't until we did human reproduction in about year 9 that I learned about the mechanics of erections. To be fair I went to a girls' school and only had sisters.

Any1ForTennis · 24/08/2026 22:29

Grimwald · 24/08/2026 12:35

I was shocked when I learned at school (from my friends, NOT from the teachers!) about what the actual mechanics of sex were and which part of the male anatomy was put into which part of the female. I was disgusted and absolutely astonished to think that anyone would ever want to do it! I was about 12 or 13 at the time.

I also learned from school friends that having started my periods, again at about 13, I would have a bleed every month for (what felt like) the rest of my life! I was horrified by that prospect - as anyone who has experienced a Dr White's sanitary belt and sanitary towels would be! Thank goodness my daughter and granddaughters don't have to do battle with those dreadful things every month!

My parents never ever discussed sex, menstruation or anything vaguely related to it. I had to get all my information from friends (those who had more enlightened parents) and teen magazines. I was determined that my own children would not be ignorant like I was, so I bought picture books of anatomy and sex and told my little ones all about sex and periods before they even started school, so they were fully informed and it felt to them as if it was something they had always known about.

I vaguely remember 'loop pads' for sale in the local chemist. My friend was buying sanitary towels during our school lunchbreak, we were about 12 and her parents were a bit neglectful, the absolutely lovely lady with the Grandma face in the chemist asked us if we definitely needed 'loop' ones as it was normally older ladies who bought those. She took us back to the shelf and helped her pick stick on pads instead (then shoved them in a paper bag😆).

Anyway, just out of curiosity, were the pads for belts not stick on so you needed the belt to hold it on and presume they had loops to attach them?

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