Texts about temperature and coughing are making me want to end it

[StillWate]

Sending texts with your temperature and coughing updates is not appealing

dear god, I need to end this relationship

*fifties, don’t live together

Omg nothing makes your fanny shut quicker than a pathetic man!! 😳🥴what does he want?!! A new mummy to look after him?!

Send him that! 🤣

Clenched 😂

THAT'S the message to send.

'I am not your mother.'

He has a cough and a temperature. It could be caused by any number of different viruses or bacteria.

Or, "Was this meant for me? Did you mean to send it to your mum?"

Are they expecting ongoing sympathy from you?

An endless messaged conversation about it sounds tiresome.

Or... do you want me to ask your mum to come round? 🤣

It’s so tiresome

I think the expectation is of help from me, aa I’m the competent carer type

not biting, but also the ick

Oh no!!! It sounds like he's caught......<drumroll>.........MANFLU.

Ha! Very much so

Was about to say it sounds like you don’t really care about him!

If my DP was feeling really rough and sent me messages about having a high temp and coughing, I’d have some sympathy and send him a virtual hug and maybe have a little treat delivered to him the next day! If you honestly don’t give a shit that he feels so ill, then yes, end it. Even as a FWB I’d expect a bare level of polite communication, but if you can’t be arsed then just tell him that.

I do care that he’s feeling so unwell and am kind. I’m not a monster @SnowflakeSmasher86

Venting here

He has two grown up dc who live at home so he’s not on his own

I guess he feels sorry for himself and wants some attention. I get you though, having grown up with a hypochondriac DF I’ve not got much patience for that kind of thing.

A friend from abroad was recently in UK, and got a cold while here. She flew home and about 10 days later I sent her a general ‘how’s things’ message. Her reply was all about how she was ‘slowly recovering’ and ‘being gentle’ with herself after her ‘illness’. I’d forgotten she even had a cold. I got a bit of a friend-ick from that.

"You've sent me [insert number] messages today telling me your temperature. What do you want me to do, draw a graph?"

It may backfire badly. My hypochondriac EXH would have jumped at this and called 999 himself as he would’ve believed that he was dying. He was dying many times from multiple imaginary health issues. Thankfully he is an EX now.