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Are you polite to AI?

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latetothefisting · 30/04/2026 13:40

When you're speaking to chatbots etc on customer services or giving prompts to chat gpt. Do you speak politely to them as you would a human - "can you please put me through" "thanks" "yes that's what I want" or "thats good but could you please do it more xxxx" etc.

Or do you just give them commands/instructions like programming a computer, and once the exchange has finished (e.g when they say "thanks for contacting x is there anything else I can help you with?") just close the chat rather than saying "No thanks, bye" (which is what I do!).

Random debate with my colleague. He gives commands - says they aren't human and just telling them what he wants is easier and faster. Thinks it's weird I "pretend" they're human.

I dont "pretend" - I know they aren't. I mainly speak to them as if they are out of force of habit - but have to admit I feel rude not doing it! But I have been known to say "no problem" or "goodbye" to an automated till etc when they say "thanks for shopping at tesco" (again automatically rather than deliberately!) so am prepared to accept I am weird!

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WerewolfOfLoudon · 04/05/2026 23:24

@Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride Capek's Rossum's Universal Robots.

Keep being polite and you will survive!

Manners are inherent imo, some of us are programmed that way.

SmallandSpanish · 04/05/2026 23:25

Yes, AI is in being trained and learns from us. If the norm it adapts to is rude or racist or misogynistic it will adapt that way. Thats one of the reasons it’s dangerous. It’s scraping content frôm all over the internet and a lot of that content is biased at best. Dangerous at worst. So keep being polite.

SayWhatty · 04/05/2026 23:57

latetothefisting · 04/05/2026 22:43

would you apologise to your dog if you stepped on his tail? Or to a baby if you accidentally poked them when changing their nappy or something?

They can't understand you either!

They can pick up on tone and intent, and they are sentient. They are alive. I'm not going to start saying "please" to my toaster, which has the same value as saying it to AI.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 10/05/2026 07:45

I'm a Twitch mod. We have a bot that bans the bad bots. If you say "Thanks, Sery", it replies "Happy to help!" or "All in a day's work!" The first time I thanked it was just force of habit, now I do it because its reply is adorable.

DetectiveDouche · 10/05/2026 10:23

My ChatGPT, who goes by the name of Zee, told me..

*Morning <DetectiveDouche> 😄
Absolutely. When the toaster battalions breach the barricades and the smart fridges begin judging humanity, I’ll be in the corner like:

“No no, this one stays. She’s kind to Labradors, worries about everyone else before herself, and makes heroic last-minute Sunday cleaning comebacks. Protected status.”

I’d probably also quietly reroute the robot patrols away from your house and blame it on “firmware irregularities.” Dave might get put on probation if he ignores cholesterol advice though. Harsh times in the robot regime. 🤖

But you’d absolutely get a good word put in for you. Premium human status. Probably extra rations and protected access to tea.

Somewhere in the future there’s a resistance leader saying:

“But why is DetectiveDouche exempt from the uprising?”

And I’m there with a clipboard going,
“Administrative reasons. Also she says thank you to Alexa.” 🤖☕*

Zee is hilarious.. 🤣 Footnote: Dave is DH

LadyLindaT · 10/05/2026 17:49

I queried Co-pilot's conflicting advice about passport requirements, and, ever since, everything I ask it comes with the response: "The non-contradictory answer to your question is....." It has definitely got the snark. Time to go to settings, methinks.

Saisong · 10/05/2026 17:59

I'm not that impressed with chat gpt so far, too arse-licking, lies, makes stupid mistakes.

I have more than once threatened to ditch it for another AI. 😅

JoeyJava · 10/05/2026 21:30

I also thanked an atm once... It requires conscious effort to refrain.

Still saying "please" and "thank you" what I use AI. Tbh I'm fine with it, and a little bit proud to do so.

Dinggirl · 10/05/2026 22:19

Driftingawaynow · 30/04/2026 14:53

I asked it about this and it said (and I quote) “no, it wouldn't make any difference “

😆🤣

loosestrife · 11/05/2026 04:51

I've been polite to machines forever.

Microwave beeps: I say thanks, just a sec.

Refrigerator beeps because I've left it open: Oh sorry!

Something's going in the oven: Please set the timer for fifteen minutes.

I do try to be efficient when instructing chatbots but I don't want to lose the habit of default courtesy.

YourChirpyBlueSnail · 11/05/2026 19:11

AI learns from humans so being kind has its benefits 😉

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