What is your max age for first baby?

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Hi all,

I am in a pickle. I’m 38 and gave myself a deadline of 40 to have a baby.

Long story short, we tried for a couple of years then the last year I have relaxed a bit and gave up on the ovulation tests etc, So ttc for 3 years with no positive results. We have had the basic fertility tests and no problems have been found with either of us, so we were offered IVF.

We are still undecided on whether to go down this route because we kind of wanted to see if it happened naturally, but either way, I have 9 months to get pregnant. With or without help.

Now that my self imposed deadline is under a year, I’m not sure how to feel.

I personally think it’s not ideal for me to a baby in 40s, for me or baby, although I definitely don’t judge mums who have had babies a bit later. But I also feel a bit of panic that I’m nearing the end of the road.

Would you go past 40 with your first? What would your reason be for yay or nay?

Trying for number three at age 32 but I’d have another possibly up to 40. I don’t think DH wants another after this one due to his age (38).

I would say, imagine having an 18 year old, and think how old you'd like to be. Then just reduce the number by 18! The teenage years (or so I'm told) can be brutal, so if you don't want to be wrangling an aggressive adolescent at, say, age 60, don't have a baby at 42!