His boys are 11 and 13 - they're well behaved, polite nice children but I find myself totally distancing my self from them and I wonder if it's because of him and not them. I do not have my own kids and have never wanted any - they don't align with how I want to live my life. Anyway ... When they're over he lets them stare at a screen ALLlLL DAY LONG, they go to bed really late as they are on their phone, eat constant junk food and are never made to shower, brush teeth etc. it's so irresponsible of him and I hate it! When I mentioned before his kid needed to shower as he slept in his football kit!!!!!!! I was told to butt out so I obviously dont say anything as he will get defensive and snap. He is now having a go at me saying I don't want to be in their life etc ... What do I do?? Its getting to the point where I'm considering leaving ....