Should I stay or should I go?

[WizardofCoz]

Hi MN legends,

Without giving away too much info, I’m so, so indecisive about an event this afternoon.

Help me.

I have an (often) stressful & demanding job that requires me to attend weekend events at times.

I am on leave currently & back at work on Wednesday.

Have had a full on few days with family stuff, this is an afternoon for me (no kids etc) and I have lots of things I need to do but it’s also a chance to relax alone.
I need that.

I could just pop in for an hour or two, but I’m really trying to protect my energy & I know it’ll be a lot of talking ‘shop’

I know they’ll appreciate me showing my face.

I need to leave in an hour.

Asked a friend & she said ‘protect your energy, you don’t get paid enough’

I work for a statutory organisation.

WWYD?

Team friend here: relax and recharge.

If you’re on leave and you don’t have to go, then stay home and relax. Sounds like that will do you more good.

Unless you're going to suffer from FOMO, just stay at home.

Should you stay, or should you go now?
If you go, will it be double (pay)
And if you stay, will there be trouble?

(Sorry, couldn't resist! 😂
FWIW - Team Stay)

If I'm ever dithering over going somewhere I know that means deep down I really don't want to go, so unless it's an unforgiveable sin to skip it (special occasion etc.) I go with my gut and skip!

I'm sorry to say but the event won't pivot on you being there. No one will really care, although I'm sure they'd be happy to see you.

Chill out, don't think of it again.

Oh and I also worked for a public body, and I can tell you that nothing would make me attend a work/semi work event whilst on leave. That's your precious time, and don't forget that!

Thanks all for your support here.
I feel a bit guilty but equally as@wumintysaid, I’m sure my presence won’t be missed & being there wouldn’t have been pivotal. Haha

I take it you stayed home! Good on you if you did.

I hope you weren't offended by me saying that you "wouldn't be missed", but I think you understand exactly what I meant....

I recall (as the manager) having to go to the dreaded Christmas Party - to support my team. OMG I just absolutely hated those events, as forced jollity really does my head in. But anyway as a sign of camaraderie and support I would go. Once dinner was over, well a few minutes after lol, I would go to the lobby, get my coat and disappear. No one ever said they missed me, and I'm sure they were somewhat glad the boss was gone home!

In the public sector nothing is paid for, but I did supply drinks for the table. Cost a bleeding fortune, but I took one for the team. 😊

Not offended at all.
You helped me make up my mind! I didn’t go.
Felt very guilty but I always do… 😅