How to stop being envious

[SomeLikeitSnot]

My sister is marrying a lovely man who earns a fortune and has a wealthy family with lots of property and invested wealth. Obviously I am thrilled for her and so glad but I’m also burning with envy at her future with no money worries, lots of lovely holidays and comfortable living with a lovely house etc. We have other friends who earn more and have more but somehow it being my sister and her being so close I’m really struggling and I hate it and feel awful and stupid.

We work hard, DH is lovely and we have a decent life but money is tight and I worry a lot already about pensions and how much we will have when we are older, how we will afford to help the kids with money etc.

Is there a magic way to just not be envious?

'we were close and our lives were similar and it almost feels like I’m being left behind and she’s being elevated into this new and better life…?'

I felt absolutely the same when my friend had her first child - like I was being left behind. It was so sad and so painful x

Money is really tricky, isn't it.
Remember - harsh as it seems, you don't have to "bankrupt" yourself now for the future benefit of your children, if you cannot afford it. They may need to find their own way when the time comes for them.

First of all forgive yourself for being jealous. It’s hard to work long hours knowing you won’t be able to do that forever and worries about future financial security are pretty normal.

As long as you know none of this is your sisters fault and you don’t start acting out on these feelings, you can just observe them and move on. I think it’s likely to sting less over time if both your situations stay the same.