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Any way this status update on WhatsApp isn't what it seems?

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Obvnotthegolden · 12/04/2025 18:24

My db is late 40s. We hardly communicate , never see each other. He's gay and single.

His WhatsApp status update is a link to a threads account that features mainly young adult men doing exercises/gym pics without tops. There's also photos and videos which seems more ambiguous as to their age, 15,16? Idk, I didn't look too closely obviously.

At first I wondered if it was a joke by a mate who grabbed his phone but db is super techy and there's no way you could access his phones. He will have all the security possible and more.

But just say someone did grab his phone while he was scrolling, they'd only be able to get the link from within his phone, it's a small account (under 6000 followers and only 300 on IG), so if it was a mate joking around, how would someone else even know this account, then remember the link for when they happen to get my db's phone unlocked?

So he's accidentally posted it himself?.I just can't see that either, like I say he's really tech savvy.

He's hugely secretive, I can't see him doing it intentionally.

He currently lives with a under 25 years old man who is vulnerable, has no family to live with and MH problems. He says he's looking after this lad because the lad has no one else.

This is not the first time he's had younger men living with him, but as he gets older the gap is widening and the optics is not good.

Would love your thoughts.

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IdLikeThingToSpiralIntoControl · 12/04/2025 18:30

so you don’t think he did it accidentally, but also don’t think he did it intentionally and that no one else has grabbed his phone and done it… it has to be one of those though, doesn’t it?
I’m betting it’s something he’s linked accidentally and isn’t aware it’s visible to everyone. Maybe screenshot it and send it to him.

everythingeverything1981 · 12/04/2025 18:30

Idk what is supposed to mean?

everythingeverything1981 · 12/04/2025 18:33

Just blokes working out? Not exactly scandalous, wouldn't worry

PullTheBricksDown · 12/04/2025 18:41

IdLikeThingToSpiralIntoControl · 12/04/2025 18:30

so you don’t think he did it accidentally, but also don’t think he did it intentionally and that no one else has grabbed his phone and done it… it has to be one of those though, doesn’t it?
I’m betting it’s something he’s linked accidentally and isn’t aware it’s visible to everyone. Maybe screenshot it and send it to him.

Yes, message him and say 'did you mean to put this as your status?'

Obvnotthegolden · 13/04/2025 19:06

PullTheBricksDown · 12/04/2025 18:41

Yes, message him and say 'did you mean to put this as your status?'

I messaged him saying this and he didn't reply but took it down.
It's weird he's not even said it was a mate joking, which leads me to the realisation that he really does consume this sort of content.

No @everythingeverything1981 sorry I wasn't clear, it is young men, possibly underage in mainly their pants working out. Boys. Boys in their pants.

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