she assumes I will just go along with what she wants/says/does. Today I have said no to something that I have just gone along with for a long time, but have not been too happy about. This has previously caused issues at home, that she is not aware of. Today I have put my foot down. I'm now not checking my phone as I am dreading her response ! IMO it's a perfectly reasonable no. A bit vague as I cannot reveal the detail as outting.