Recently I was reading a book where the main character lived with her partner and his two children from his previous marriage. He didn’t want to marry her but said she could own a stake in his flat, so long as she sorted it out. She did school pickups for his kids and he got annoyed if she wanted him to organise eg a plumber and expected her to cut in to her work day instead of him. But when she had to step up for her aging mother he said “What are YOU going to do about it?” so didn’t expect to be involved in anyway. And she was aware her ILs preferred his ex-wife.
And all I could think of was LTB!!!!! I’m sure before MN and the relationships boards I wouldn’t have thought it was a great situation but now I was incensed! Has anyone else had similar?