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What would happen if two abusive people met?

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Breakingmad1 · 19/01/2025 21:15

We all know how many abusive men there are in the world. And there are some abusive women. I’ve been watching My Lover, My Killer on Netflix today and got pondering what would happen if two abusive people met? If both were trying to coercively or financially control.

Is there a sense of it so that an abuser would avoid a fellow abuser?

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Birdseyetrifle · 19/01/2025 21:17

Rose and Fred West, 2 abusers met and look what happened.

TitaniumTess · 19/01/2025 21:18

Good question. My ex was horrible and I've always wondered to be honest!

Sistem · 19/01/2025 21:22

Aren’t they those bickering couples you meet? Always sniping about nothing.

RosesAndHellebores · 19/01/2025 21:25

Myra Hindley and Ian Brady.
The parents of some of the children we read of who are battered.
I can't think there can be a good outcome.

sjs42 · 19/01/2025 21:26

i Suppose abusers like to have someone to abuse. So another abuser isn’t necessarily the best choice if they want to abuse their partner. However sometime when two meet, they team up to perpetrate even more abuse.

Supersimkin7 · 19/01/2025 21:27

They take chunks out of each other. Then scapegoat one of their DC.

CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 20/01/2025 08:51

Either they instinctively or very quickly realise that the other person isn't someone they can use and abuse, or they just don't click/get drawn to them (abusive people tend to have good radars and effective methods of weeding out people who don't serve them, just like scammers can immediately tell if they will be able to get money off someone and deceive them), so nothing happens to the abusive person. The person they meet might be affected in all sorts of ways.
If two people who are abusive meet, see an equal and team up against a world of potential victims, it looks really bad. Others have talked about Fred and Rose West, but a lot of dictators and cult leaders, the ones who have one or two other people who are their SO and/or deputy, also probably met an abuser who doesn't mind not having the top spot as long as they get the benefits.

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