NT 10 year old boys- what can they do?

[Salohlah]

We have a review for our disabled son coming up. He is my only child so I was hoping to compile a list of what an able bodied neurotypical 10 year old boy can do that my child can't. It feels horrible to look at this way, but I need some bullet points to bring up at the review.
-Bed time routine- can they do it unsupervised? Sleep?
-Hygiene
-Getting up and ready to go/getting dressed/getting clothes
-Social life
-Independence- can they cross the road alone etc
-Homework
-Activities
-Are they allowed to do thing like making a cup of tea? Cooking?
-Reading/writing
-Outbursts/meltdowns/shouting
-Behaviour

Is there somewhere online I could refer to in the meeting to show that his needs are not typical for a child of his age?

I feel so overwhelmed by it all and I know our lives are different but I have no markers as to how different our lives are

You can find some lists of the more physical development and education sides of things, like e.g. https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health-wellness/health-encyclopedia/he.milestones-for-10-year-olds.ue5722.

For things like independence it's harder to compare because a lot of that depends on different styles of parenting - you'll find people who say their 8yo can be sent to a shop five minutes walk away to buy milk, and others who have an 11yo now at secondary school who they don't let stay in the house by themselves.