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Childs dad arrested not sure if he's been remanded

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Leabee1234 · 28/11/2024 20:28

Hi. So I have a 16 month old son with childs dad who is going through another long awful custody battle with his ex of his othe 2 children. She has claimed domestic violence then dropped got back with him and he has never been charged. Recently she accused him of abusing her children. Which has really upset me as I have never seen this and he has always been good with our son. So he's had a weekly 1 hour supervised visit whilst he is on bail as they said they haven't charged him yet and are goint to investigate. This woman won't tell me any information his ex and has blocked me on everything. When I was pregnant she begged my sons dad to be with her and was horrible to me but I still allowed my son to be a dad. They had a custody battle and mt sons dad said she's trying everything to ruin it so now she's said he's abused the children. Bail was until end of December however my sons dad's phone has been off for days now I have contacted tbe family and they said police was looking for him . I don't know if this is him breaching bail conditions or if they have charged him for child abuse. I don't even know if he's in prison or on remand or where he is and nor does his family and I am really concerned. I have tried calling police stations they won't give me any information. If he is on remand I don't know why and how long and I haven't even been given any information on these allegations and social workers have been involved with me and my child now due to it even though I didn't have a cause of concern until this. I feel really upset and at a loss as he's my sons dad and I am worried but no one will tell me anything and I'm.compleyelty in the dark is there anyone j can ask for advice or see what is happening

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TheSilkWorm · 28/11/2024 20:29

You can ask your child's social worker if they can find out for you. I really wouldn't be so quick to dismiss her allegations if I were you.

SquirrelySponges · 28/11/2024 20:44

Police won't be able to tell you where he is it will be up to him if he wants someone to be made aware I'd he has been arrested or remanded. But if you are worried and nobody has heard from him and you've tried all you can, such as phone calls, visiting his home, texts etc. Then call the police and report him missing. If he has been arrested or remanded you will be told something along the lines of "he is safe and well". At least then you know he is ok. If he is not with the police then he is genuinely missing and they will look for him and check on his welfare.

Leabee1234 · 28/11/2024 21:00

TheSilkWorm · 28/11/2024 20:29

You can ask your child's social worker if they can find out for you. I really wouldn't be so quick to dismiss her allegations if I were you.

Hi I am not dismissing anything. I asked her and she blocked me when I asked mother to.mother as he is my childs dad too. She's made various allegations in past and he was never charged however this time no one is giving me any info I have tried asking police social workers and herself and they refuse to so I've been in the dark.and now this

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