I dont know how to be angry/frustrated

[GeorgiaP88]

how do you work through your anger without shouting or slamming things? because im not allowed to do either and theyre the only ways ive ever been able to manage it. deep breaths dont help me, if my toddler is kicking the shit out of me trying to get him dressed for example & i get angry how am i supposed to manage it, without shouting. i feel like such a shit mum sometimes. help!

For me shouting happens more than I would like when I’m depleted and need more sleep / me time. As a toddler mum you will be exhausted so focus on getting more rest if you can. If not, sometimes just ignore the kicking and hitting and get them dressed. Remember shouting only makes it worse as they get stressed out too. Getting them outside often calms them down and if you need a breather just leave them in a safe place for a few mins while you calm down.