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DD’s father has been forging/lying about paying me to CMS!

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Ostryga · 24/04/2023 18:25

Spent 2.5 hours going over everything with CMS this morning, as I’d had a letter saying he’d overpaid by over a grand and they wanted me to pay him back! Once my jaw had come off the floor I called them.

Turns out he has been sending doctored bank statements (I assume, obv they couldn’t give me the full details) for over 18 months. I’ve received around £500 from him for Dd since 2020 and he has been saying he’s been paying over £180 per month since then.

I have obviously sent in all the info they need to see he has in face NOT been paying anything.

What a raging pillock he is. Has anyone else experienced this? I don’t even want his money at this point, but for DD’s sake I am absolutely fucking furious!

OP posts:
Ffsmakeitstop · 24/04/2023 19:14

That's awful. Some men shouldn't be dad's. I hope they penalise him in some way and make him pay whatever he owes.

ImAGoodPerson · 24/04/2023 19:19

Wow, that's awful. Presumably that must be illegal? What a dickhead.

ImAGoodPerson · 24/04/2023 19:20

Only experience I have had is lots of friends XHs paying fuck all and lying about income etc. It just disgusts me, this is another level though.

Ylvamoon · 24/04/2023 19:25

Some men are disgusting!
No morals whatsoever!

Flowersun6 · 24/04/2023 19:27

I've never heard of this. Don't you have yearly reviews OP? Is he self employed? I would contact the police.

BitOutOfPractice · 24/04/2023 19:30

Jeez some men really do stoop very low. What an arsehole op.

Ostryga · 24/04/2023 19:31

Flowersun6 · 24/04/2023 19:27

I've never heard of this. Don't you have yearly reviews OP? Is he self employed? I would contact the police.

Yes I’ve had the yearly reviews! And my money stopped but I was never updated with what he was saying. I have no idea how it happened but he basically faked so many payments on the yearly reviews he was over a grand in credit so didn’t have to pay anything for the year.

I’m going to wait for the CMS investigation and then possibly escalate depending on what’s happens.

I honestly cannot believe it. I thought he was skint and couldn’t afford payments which is what he led me to believe. And being a trusting idiot went off of the CMS calculations.

It wasn’t until the letter today I realised it had gone tits up.

OP posts:
Ostryga · 24/04/2023 19:54

All the evidence! I am determined to take this silly twat down.

DD’s father has been forging/lying about paying me to CMS!
OP posts:
Flowersun6 · 24/04/2023 22:15

Always ask for a mandatory reconsideration. CMS don't hold many powers but after that stage gets declined you have 30 days to apply to DWP and further your case. It's a slow process but you can provide evidence to DWP and it can go to a tribunal. Good luck OP make sure you request it all back dating. Absolutely disgusting of him.

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