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11 year old DD coming out?

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Sfuandtired · 05/04/2023 21:52

I’m not really that sure why I’m posting this as it really doesn’t affect anything, maybe just to see if anyone else has been in the same position and if I handled it ok? I was a bit taken aback today during a dinner table chat about a young relative going on a date, we were discussing this and I asked DD if she thought she might have dates with boys at the same age, to which she casually replied no because I’m gay.
Although not what I was expecting to hear I don’t think I appeared shocked and just calmly said oh ok so you think you’ll like girls then?
Dd replied that she knows she does now, we had a relaxed conversation with me possibly rambling a little about gay friends I had at school and also saying that I’d always be happy with whatever makes her happy, which is completely true, has anyone else been in this position? Especially with a child so young?

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nataliafergusisnotmyname · 06/04/2023 12:54

I knew I had feelings for girls at that age but it was different times and I daren't say anything. I am bi now but no-one knows because I am in a straight relationship. It's wonderful that she feels she can talk to you and have an open dialogue. It may be a phase it may not but its best your daughter believes that either way you dont mind and are happy for her to explore her feelings.

MyDarlingClementine · 06/04/2023 13:06

As above that's wonderful she can tell you.

I would add she shouldn't pigeon hole herself though and put her self into any catagory.

I only say that because dd went to all girls school where that was the fashion.

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