Wifw is turning 50 in 2 weeks. We are going away on a city break abroad for a long weekend with our young children, it’s a surprise. My family are celebrating a birthday for another relative around the same time so are combining it with my wife’s. Her side of the family haven’t been in contact with her or i to try and find a time to meet. Now I’m worrying the ball should have been in my court to arrange something for her with them. Should i be doing the arranging or would you think if they wanted to do something they would be in contact? Not wanting to annoy anyone! Her family live 4 hours away so it would need a little thought re organising. Up to them or me? I don’t think she will be that worried about seeing them.