Ok so I married him knowing this ( we were young). But thought the fact someone had highlighted these traits as a joke, might over time might make him change his approach. It’s been 20 years.
He’s nice. He’s not a bd person. But…
We’ve had a chat and he agreed he sounds like a dick but then that make me sound like a controlling arse. What to do. Tell him where he’s going wrong ( controlling) carry on ( he’s harmless) , or leave him ( they’re all problems).