I am having difficulties with my teen, she is nearly 15 years old. just wondering if anyone else is going through similar. Problems started after she started secondary school at 11. She turned into a very quiet, introverted girl who hardly spoke to me, she had some issues with bullying in the first year of comprehensive and I found she was self harming, as you can imagine I was very shocked as I always kept her quite sheltered from media and so I wondered how on earth she would even think to do this. I contacted the school and they linked her to a mental health worker whom she spoke to a few times online as COVID had hit. I also moved her schools during COVID. She struggled to make friends but has now picked up with a small group of girls. She still has contact with a girl from her old school who doesn't live close by but we have been driving her back and forth to see her. Recently she has became very secretive and mouthy towards me. I have been checking through her Ipad and was shocked to find that the old friend now identifies as a he, she (he) self harms, sends my daughter videos of a sexual nature from adult sites, she talks about satanism a lot and death. It seems this girl is my daughters girlfriend. My daughter has also written in her notes about how much she hates me. As you can imagine i am very upset about all of this, I have not yet said anything to her and i am at a loss on what best to do.