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Why do some men just want to sext??

13 replies

Lostinlove817 · 28/12/2022 23:36

Met this guy online. We went on a date, went well (I thought), he came back to mine and we had sex (it felt right).

Now, every time I’ve suggested meeting up (even just for “Netflix and chill”, he makes up some excuse and flakes on me). However, he is very keen on sexting me? In fact, it seems that’s all he wants to do and I just don’t get it? We’ve had sex but now just wants to dirty talk? For an ego boost?

(He is 100% definitely not married or in a relationship).

Sexting does nothing for me and I am just going to stop replying, but it is baffling me a bit why someone would be so keen over message but not want to do the actual real thing?

OP posts:
Shadope · 28/12/2022 23:43

Being blunt he probably doesn’t fancy you. You can do better. Delete him from your life

Suprima · 28/12/2022 23:46

Because he can’t be bothered.

The chase is over.

(But now the boundary is broken between you two wants some wank fodder texted to his phone for an ego boost/because he’s bored)

AndyWarholsPiehole · 28/12/2022 23:46

He doesn't like you enough to be with you but you're an easy wank.

Icantremembermyusername · 28/12/2022 23:49

As above! You're warm up material. Do not engage!

arethereanyleftatall · 28/12/2022 23:54

Well, some people really like sexting?!? Male or female. It's safe, really flexible, no hassle, on demand, no pregnancy, no wining and dining, no commitment - I think it's fairly obvious why lots of people like it.

Eatentoomanyroses · 28/12/2022 23:56

Bored, no respect for you, bit of fun for him, chase is over, no attraction now he’s had sex. Take your pick but stop engaging and learn a lesson. Meeting guys online and having sex with them is really not a good use of women’s time and usually just makes you feel like crap.

arethereanyleftatall · 28/12/2022 23:58

Eatentoomanyroses · 28/12/2022 23:56

Bored, no respect for you, bit of fun for him, chase is over, no attraction now he’s had sex. Take your pick but stop engaging and learn a lesson. Meeting guys online and having sex with them is really not a good use of women’s time and usually just makes you feel like crap.

Unless the women wants to do that too of course, then it's a fine use of her time.

Eatentoomanyroses · 29/12/2022 00:24

@arethereanyleftatall in this case it isn’t because she’s been left wanting more, not getting it and angsting about it on a forum.

SpinningFloppa · 29/12/2022 01:38

How do you know he is not in a relationship sounds like he is

Mentalpiece · 29/12/2022 02:37

Because some women allow themselves to be treated like meat.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 29/12/2022 02:38

Likely they're with someone else and want to keep you on the hook as back-up.

Original poster
Lostinlove817 · 29/12/2022 10:30

@Shadope you’re probably right. Think it’s time to delete and block!

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starbaby · 29/12/2022 13:07

I think men cum really easily. If I could have an orgasm from sexting I'd def be doing it!
Does zero for me and I think men assume that cos they wanking and sexting you must be equally turned on! Doh

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