He’s an abusive %#* in many other ways but I’m so flipping tired. Four weeks ago he agreed to pay for dc2’s tutoring, now he’s refused. Thankfully lovely tutor who I’ve been using for 3 years for dc1 hasn’t insisted on a terms fees in lieu of cancellation. I’ve been covering every expense alone whilst he pays a pittance then deducts his travel expenses from the little he pays.
I’ve been stalked, harassed and intimidated for over 5 years, so much so I put security cameras around my house. I have as little contact as I can with him. I’ve remained silent throughout. He’s always sure to skirt just within the law, the police aren’t interested.
Every time I think we’ve turned a corner, he ramps up the abuse, then the subsequent gaslighting starts. I remain silent, I don’t antagonise him meanwhile the abuse continues. 10 years still to go, I literally can’t be bothered anymore. I often think it would be easier just handing dc over and walking away.