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Today, my DS asked me how my day had been

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Mandatorymongoose · 05/12/2022 19:26

I just want to share this with someone because I am so surprised and pleased.

DS is 9. He is currently under assessment for ASD. He has never in my memory started a conversation with me by asking about something unrelated to his needs / interests.

He is a wonderful, sweet, bright and funny child. He will mostly answer questions addressed to him (although sometimes just by saying no and leaving the room Hmm ) and will approach you to talk about his particular interests (mostly maths / coding and certain games) or if he needs something.

Today, he out of the blue asked me if I had enjoyed dinner and how my day had been. It actually took me a second to register the fact he was asking and to process how to answer.

I realise this might seem a bizzare thing to be so pleased by but social communication is such a challenge for him and it's just made my day really lovely.

If there is something small that has made your day lovely do share it so I can feel pleased on your behalf too!

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topcat2014 · 05/12/2022 19:31

That sounds lovely. I am happy for you

babysharksb1tch · 05/12/2022 19:32

My son is non verbal and autistic at 3. I am absolutely delighted for you and pray one day that will be us. What a brilliant Christmas present!

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 05/12/2022 19:34

Before reading pp's comment, exactly same thing came to my mind too. It's wonderful. How lovely!

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PronounsBaby · 05/12/2022 19:34

I live with an 8 yo with no additional needs who, now you mention it, has never asked a question like that...

RockAndRollerskate · 05/12/2022 19:35

That’s filled me with the warm fuzzies - I’m so happy for you, how lovely 😊

PronounsBaby · 05/12/2022 19:35

Sorry, I didn't say how lovely it is for you, and hope one day to hear the same!

Techno56 · 05/12/2022 19:37

That is amazing. My son is autistic and not a bad bone in his body but I would fall off my chair if he asked me anything about my day or how I was.

Doggydarling · 05/12/2022 19:41

Said goodbye to my 10 year old nephew and his reply was 'bye, love you Auntie' I said 'love you too' and he gave me a big hug around my waist, I love this little guy and his sisters so much it was wonderful to have him say it to me.

RedemptionOrNothing · 05/12/2022 19:49

That’s so lovely. I’m chuffed for you.

My cat sung when he saw me today and gave me a big fuss. That is my small thing.

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Mandatorymongoose · 05/12/2022 19:52

@babysharksb1tch thank you! I will keep my fingers crossed for you too. DS talked very late but he does talk plenty now when he wants to (just about computer games I still don't understand!)

@PronounsBaby they are all funny little creatures!

@Doggydarling that's so lovely! DS mostly just says OK if you tell him you love him so the rare occasions he says love you too are super special. It's such a lovely feeling.

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Mandatorymongoose · 05/12/2022 19:53

@RedRedemptionOrNothing awww that's so sweet, my Ddog just shouts at me when I get home and thinks I'm very inconsiderate for not having pockets full of treats at all times

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slowquickstep · 05/12/2022 19:59

Aw bless, your heart must be bursting.

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Mandatorymongoose · 05/12/2022 19:59

@techno56 I honestly nearly did, I was finishing off some work and it really threw me, I was just so baffled for a second

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mnahmnah · 05/12/2022 20:01

Lovely!

I’ve been off work ill today. When my 5yo got home from school, he wrote some little notes to me saying ‘I love you’, ‘I care for you’ and a picture of me. So cute. Made me feel slightly better!

SadButTheTruth · 05/12/2022 20:02

Im delighted for you OP, that’s just the loveliest of simple things that make you feel good! May it be the first of many questions!

@RedemptionOrNothing what did the cat sing?!

WalkingOnSonshine · 05/12/2022 20:02

That’s really made me smile.

KitchenFleur · 05/12/2022 20:05

You’ll remember this for a long time!

I remember ds asking this when he was 12 (he is autistic), dd and I just gaped at him we were so shocked 😂

SunshineIndoors123 · 05/12/2022 20:11

How lovely! I'm so happy for you that he asked you that. This evening, I was writing some thank you cards and my baby was on his playmat. I glanced down at him as he had gone a bit quiet (usually he's bashing his toys/madly kicking his legs) and he was just lying there smiling at me, a proper big beaming smile. Made my heart melt

RedemptionOrNothing · 05/12/2022 20:38

The cat was singing the song of his people he is very vocal @SadButTheTruth

Here he is singing a carol.

Today, my DS asked me how my day had been
MuggleMe · 05/12/2022 20:52

Yesterday I pulled my ASD DD up on some bad behaviour earlier in the day. She said I know mummy and I've been trying to make up for it all day (and I had).

MuggleMe · 05/12/2022 20:54

*had noticed.

RogueV · 05/12/2022 20:58

This has made me smile

AceofPentacles · 05/12/2022 21:03

Great feeling Flowers

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Mandatorymongoose · 05/12/2022 21:09

Thank you for sharing (and understanding!) my happiness and its great to hear about the nice things in other people's day too.

I'm jealous of the caroling cat

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HighlandsMum · 05/12/2022 21:28

This is so lovely! I’m 1 week post parfum so my emotions are everywhere and it’s made me cry.

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