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What are your NY Resolutions

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WokeIntoChristmas · 02/12/2022 10:54

Mine is to be more assertive, be healthily selfish, and free up more time. Also, do things to expand my social circle.

I've been let down a few times this year, and 3 times in the past week! It always seem to be the same thing. Someone arranges something, people agree, then drop out and I am the last one standing.

So, for example, a group of friends decided to take up a hobby. It cost £100. They set up a Whatsapp, sent round a flyer, and asked everyone to pay the money upfront. I wasn't 100% into it, but enjoyed the company, so agreed. The answer is yes, so I am committed to - right? So after the first session, a 3rd of them dropped out. Then the others dropped for non excuses. Turns out only I paid upfront, so I had to go for the rest of the course, on my own.

Another time a friend begged me to share a personal trainer with her. I wasn't fussed, but agreed. We had a trial and both said yes to 8 sessions. Then she emailed him and said no, its not for her, so I had to go on my own as I paid on y way out.

This week 3 people let me down. Someone arranged a Christmas outing, then dropped out. Another arranged to meet me in the city. I bought the train ticket (loads cheaper in advance) and she cancelled the night before. Asked my brother if he wanted to meet up, as not seen him in 2 years and I was to be in his small town for 6 hours, and he never responded.

So, yes I need to be more assertive, make better friends, and be a bit more selfish. Obviously I let people walk all over me.

How about you?

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OatFox · 02/12/2022 10:58

Assertiveness and boundaries are great resolutions!

I'm going to prioritise spending more on experiences than things. I'm a self-confessed shopaholic who buys things just to feel a buzz so I've started selling unworn clothes on Vinted. I'm going to pay off my store cards (about £400 between them) and resolve to use my Vinted balance to only buy clothes second hand from Vinted themselves in an attempt to reduce consumption. I can buy new shoes if needed but no other new clothes from fast fashion retailers.

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