How do you get on with you your own life & stop getting upset when family don't bother with you?

[Snowqueen22]

Just that, all tips welcome! So tired of constantly reaching out to my sister & she just ignores my messages or is vague. It's upsetting & I just want to get on with my life, we haven't done anything to upset her. It's really come from nowhere. She makes zero effort with us. I just want to get on with my life now & accept we don't matter to her..

Anyone? Feeling quite down, sick of reaching out...

She's your sister no matter what, whether she's in touch with you or not. I would say that family relationships go through phases when you're closer and phases when you're not as close. I'd assume she has stuff going on and for whatever reason hasn't got the bandwidth to be in touch.

Can't help noticing that you gave us on Mumsnet 10 whole minutes before prodding us for a response. Try giving her a month or two before sending her a light message saying you're thinking of her.

Being needy is very draining.

Well I would not assume it came from nowhere.
Self reflection can never hurt even if your are absolutely sure you haven't done anything.