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Online dating - ick opinions please

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Plantmum2047 · 05/10/2022 20:22

Matched with a guy on hinge. his first message is if you were a cocktail what would you be. I said mojito, classic with a bit of zest (I know cringy AF but please excuse me) he says he's an expresso martini because "ill keep you up all night"
This gives me massive ick because I'm like this is your second message to me and you're hinting at sex but my friends don't feel as strongly...thoughts please?

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AlwaysGinPlease · 05/10/2022 20:24

Ick immediately. Bin and move on. Or wait to meet someone in real life. OLD sounds horrific.

BigFatLiar · 05/10/2022 20:24

Perhaps he likes nights out. Doesn't have to mean sex.

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Plantmum2047 · 05/10/2022 20:26

AlwaysGinPlease · 05/10/2022 20:24

Ick immediately. Bin and move on. Or wait to meet someone in real life. OLD sounds horrific.

Yes this was my reaction! OLD is horrific. But people don't talk to each other in real life anymore so you have to do it as a single in your 30s in this day and age. I go to a bar and no men speak to me yet online dating I get messages each day.

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Plantmum2047 · 05/10/2022 20:27

BigFatLiar · 05/10/2022 20:24

Perhaps he likes nights out. Doesn't have to mean sex.

He's saying he is the cocktail so he said to me "I'll keep you up all night" I think it's quite obvious what he means haha.

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Justleaveitblankthen · 05/10/2022 20:28

No you are right OP, massive turn off. Setting his stall right away to see how you will respond.
I can't think of anything worse than being up all night either, whether it's clubbing, sex or his snoring 😑

Pixiedust1234 · 05/10/2022 20:31

I got the ick over him asking what cocktail I would be...or animal or whatever. I detest those stupid questions 😄

Its a double ick with his reply. Just yuck.

BigFatLiar · 05/10/2022 20:33

Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, you've obviously decided to bin him so just do it and move on.

Livinginanotherworld · 05/10/2022 20:34

🤮

mortgagescrewed · 05/10/2022 20:35

Icky ick ick ickkkkkkk

Glitterspy · 05/10/2022 20:37

Erm…nope. Unless you’re looking for a shag?

MrsClarkandPercy · 05/10/2022 20:37

Just sounds a bit exhausting.

I am quite choosy over who I would want to keep me up all night … it’s a bit presumptuous?!

mistermagpie · 05/10/2022 20:39

Ugh. Men. Women never send messages like that, just off the cuff - or do they?

It would put me right off too OP, if he's cringey and too forward in the first minute then it's not going to get better.

SummerHouse · 05/10/2022 20:42

It reminds me of blind date. Could you ask Graham for a quick reminder?

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Plantmum2047 · 05/10/2022 20:44

BigFatLiar · 05/10/2022 20:33

Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, you've obviously decided to bin him so just do it and move on.

I wanted to know other people's opinions... I thought maybe I was overreacting.

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Justhereforaibu1 · 05/10/2022 20:51

Gross

notdaddycool · 05/10/2022 20:53

Pretty ick, maybe not a sackable office but very much on probation.

SmilingHappyBeaver · 05/10/2022 20:56

He sounds like a bellend.

netflixandnaps · 05/10/2022 20:58

I have a dating app rule.
If they even so much as hint at sex, I'm out. Too old to be dealing with men/women 40+ acting like horny teenagers!

Calphurnia88 · 05/10/2022 21:10

Would definitely give me the ick.

If that's his opening line just imagine how many women he's used that on 🤮

oofmehip · 05/10/2022 21:16

SummerHouse · 05/10/2022 20:42

It reminds me of blind date. Could you ask Graham for a quick reminder?

😂

BigFatLiar · 05/10/2022 21:58

Just move on, pack in OLD and find a boyfriend by meeting and talking. OLD sounds awful, though it does provide lots of fun posts for mumsnet.

Nandocushion · 06/10/2022 00:10

Bin him for saying 'expresso' instead of 'espresso'

Damnloginpopup · 06/10/2022 01:04

Best cocktail there is though!

bonzaitree · 06/10/2022 01:33

You have to be so liberal with the block button in online dating.

Fraaahnces · 06/10/2022 02:04

Icketty, icketty, icketty, ICK!