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Fil apparently arrested for historical S.A ×TRIGGER WARNING×

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WhenIsItBeddd · 06/08/2022 21:39

We received a text the other day to say that fil has said he's been arrested for historical (child I think?) sexual assault. A drunken conversation while he was hitch hiking?! Small village area so everyone knows everyone.

He grew up in an orphanage which in recent years has had a lot of CSA accusations, that word feels wrong? He did a fucking article two years ago saying how disgusting it was.

First thing I did was the Scottish equivalent of Sarah's law, community disclosure scheme. Will they ever get back to me?

Fils phones off, not actually heard/spoken to him since June 8th.

101 obviously can't tell us anything. Police are VERY quick to phone us at 1,2,3,4am on a Tuesday after pension payday as He's tottering about 100 miles from home, city next to us. Protect my kids, contacts a no obviously.

He spent a shit load of solo time with my older two dds, have spoken to them, they've no worries, I don't think I do either but.... Contact REALLY tapered off when we had our twins, it kinda came into line with him being careless setting the grill on fire so was just never trusted again.

dh is in a bad way illness wise, depressed from a very sudden lifelong illness flare I need to help him to work through this.

I just don't know what to do?!

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KEG973 · 06/03/2023 05:40

I’m really sorry. That’s very very difficult for you. My heart goes out to you having to work through this with different hats on, as your DH partner, as the DIL, as a Mum and as a relative of the town suspected peadofile.

I don’t have any advice except possibly get a police officer to talk to your kids. Be in the room and makes it a safe space but a chat with them may allow your children the space to speak if something did happen

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