I have successfully modified a man

[Bagpusssays]

I am thrilled and wanted to share with you all.

A man I was seeing was behaving disrespectfully to me in small ways. Like taking hours to reply to texts, that sort of thing.

I proceeded to ignore him and went on dates with other guys.

He is now incredibly respectful at all times.

The change is immense.

I'm not sure that this will last or if I want to date him again but I am amazed that my mother was right and by just literally ignoring them they do have the mental capacity to reflect and modify their behaviour!!!!! Because certainly explaining what you want never works.

Hoping this gets picked up by the Daily Mail. Astounded.

Sigh

Lol

eyeroll

What is this?

Please raise your standards

If only life were that simple

Gosh, you better marry him immediately. 🙄

What?

This is a joke post

"keep 'em mean to keep 'em keen"? How dare the bloke take hours to reply to your texts! The bloody nerve of him. Incredibly disrespectful. Years ago, I warned both my sons about women like you. Thankfully, they wouldn't ever bother with someone so childish and self-centred.

Is taking hours to answer a text a big problem, I don't understand why anyone needs to be in constant communication with their partner.

You aren't that bloody naive are you?

He hasn't changed. He still is who he is. He is only hiding it to get what he wants. He will revert to type, especially when tired, stressed, drunk etc.

You can't polish a turd!

I was wondering that too.

Ah the fun police, always watching and waiting 😒

Gosh what a terribly serious place this has become! I shall save my humour and small sense of pride for other places.

Relax.

Yes because nothing screams romance and signals the start of a successful relationship like ‘modifying someone’s behaviour’ 😂
I prefer men who’s behaviour doesn’t need modifying, but that’s just me.

Yes it was a joke. The entire concept 9f modifying man is, of course, a joke.

At the same time, it felt meaningful.to me to retreat, not argue, demand or request. Not continue feeling red flags. But get on with my life.

And I was very interested at what happened.

I thought others might relate...far from the case.

It's someone I care massively about.

And I learned something important about where you put your energy and the importance of listening to that small voice that says....this particular thing isn't making me happy.

Have a great evening, all. I appreciate the tone and message here was not Mumsnet fodder.

That's wonderful news, you must be delighted!

At the same time, it felt meaningful.to me to retreat, not argue, demand or request. Not continue feeling red flags. But get on with my life.

But you didn’t get on with your life - you’ve made a massive thing of it. It’s kind of sad that you feel such a sense of awe and have found ‘meaning’ in such a non-event.

Do you have a youtube channel that I can subscribe to? Maybe a dating advice blog? Do you have courses I can buy? Seminars? Please please give us some more insights into MEN