What makes someone likeable?

[UnagiForLife]

I like to think I’m a nice person, friendly and kind, but it takes people ages to warm to me and I don’t make friends easily. So I’m wondering, what makes someone likeable? Thinking about someone you met and just instantly warmed to, what gave them that quality?

Smile a lot. Make eye contact. Ask people about themselves and enquire about it after "how is your new puppy's training coming along" "how was Greece last week" "did you see the game at the weekend".

Keep things light. Laugh at jokes. Seem confident and relaxed. Don't talk about politics / religion / controversial stuff.

@KatharineofAragon I’m not sure how to quote you but this really struck a chord with me: People who have low self esteem give off something that seems to make others treat them badly and wirh disregard. Which perpetuates the problem. Made me stop and think that sounds like my problem. Also a lot of what @Mum4kids1dog said rings true too. Thanks for all the comments it’s giving me lots to think about.