My DH always moans he doesn't spend anytime with the kids and we go on holiday for half term and he's just grumpy. Doesn't do anything with the kids unless really pushed.
I do find that the balance of power is a tricky thing on holiday, as our young DC used to me being in charge, setting the day to day boundaries and DH has different tolerances. For example I know if I let the kids do something once they remember and will repeat it. So I'm quite strict really, but DC are very mischievous 😬🙄 DH also works long hours and there is some wind down time, but then there's no time off for a SAHM. I don't know what I'm asking really, not to be ungrateful for the experience of something new for the DC. Nearly home time until next time.