I'm not sure I'm looking for advice.
My dh is 12 years old than me, we've been married 15 years with 2 kids. We both have depression on medications.
We get along really well mostly but lately I'm so fed up. He doesn't shower for days and days, I tell him it's horrid. He doesn't sleep well so I get up, get kids to school and return home just after 9 to find he's just crawled out of bed and into his home office. No wash, no shower.
We haven't had sex in 4 years, he's got erectile dysfunction prob due to antidepressants. I'm only 38 and this is a huge deal for me. We discuss it, he Says he can't help it. We discuss other ways of being intimate but nothing changes. He doesn't come near me ever. Not that I want him to when he stinks
The house is a constant low level mess. Today we both had the day off, I took kids to school, took my care for MOT, cleaned up the kitchen and he dragged his ass outta bed at 10:30. Im so fed up.