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Im just fuming with a utter timewaster

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Fishies · 30/10/2021 16:26

Get a cuppa its a long story but views please

Why would you waste someone's time so much
My nan passed a few weeks ago and im clearing her house some of those items im clearing are toiletries gift sets
She messagd me 3 weeks ago will I hold so many for her till the 29th . I asked for a deposit she never paid it and had different excuses I offered to collect it on my way to school and back was never in, She didn't turn up with it either when arranged to come to the house.

Husband told me I should have more trust so I did she sounded quite legit you know busy working ect and gave me her house address
Anyway in-between then and the 29th she has messaged numerous times asking how much she owes and then my address I've told her many times it already .We arranged she would pick up at 10 yesterday. I messaged her at 8.45 to say the bag I have them in wasn't very strong she may want to bring one 5 mins later she said she's got up late so cant collect this morning and she collect in the afternoon as shes not rushing around . Ive already told I was going out so no she couldn't but if its OK ill bring them to her at 10am still because I was going out with the kids somewhere else . She was like no thats not OK then she says I don't have the money yet, she literally lives a 10 min walk away so she says oh I can't help getting up late blah blah right so she then arranged for 5pm she then messages at 1pm am I home, I get home a bit later and message to say im home now she then replies can I bank transfer and collect monday errrrr no I've told her numerous times im not holding them any more than the 30th. I've given her many options to collect and she either picks up in the evening or by 6pm today (30th) at the latest as im home all day . She then brings more excuses out about working evenings and nights in a care home and shes busy and its affected her body not physically, she then asks me to meet her in town i said no why would I go town with my kids when your a 10 min walk from me.
Sorry but i work i have 2 children a family life tyring to organise a 60th party and clear my nans house out .walking to town i am not doing .Anyway I left it as a simple 6pm today(30th) is the latest that gives you enough time to get the cash and come get them. I will not be offering to deliver though i am busy making a birthday cake. If she work nights I understand if she's sleeping but she told me she was off yesterday and didn't start till 10pm so god knows why she didn't turn up then. Anyway late last night knowing for sure she's not coming I made what I thought was a draft listing getting ready to readvertise them ..... Facebook does not do draft listings! Lessson learnt !! It went live and I put on it due to being let down with a silly timewaster with ridiculous excuses anyway she saw it . Awkward. And messaged why have I relisted I did apologise for relisting though I didn't know i had, but I told her I don't belive shes coming she replied we definelty want them if I say I want them then I want them.( Well if you wanted them that much then you make sure you have the money and you make the time to collect them surely right) she says she will try to get her friend to pick them up

So I said well come after you finish work this morning then or up till 6pm today after that they will be relisted she then replied saying shes gone food shopping going home and will be up later its now 4.25 and ive heard nothing. I mean shes probably asleep but I still don't belive shes coming. And its becoming comical now really. Last time I listen to my husband saying have some trust.

I really couldn't give a damn anymore if she doesn't take them ive others already interested they will sell as ive made £150 on them all for my nans chosen charity there was about 40 gift sets god bless her heart. I just have made myself feel so sick and stressed by this .

If youve read this far then well done!!

OP posts:
makelovenotpetrol · 30/10/2021 18:58

Who is she ? You never said who she is in your first post?

Fishies · 30/10/2021 20:16

Just some lowlife arsehole off Facebook. She never showed up no surprise really! Anyway I've since blocked her and removed her from the group we had i havnt even wrote a message she never messaged me, don't get me wrong I want to write a really bitchy rude message to her but I honestly just can't be arsed with her any more. Im sure the sets will sell as I've already people messaging about them

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Rainbowsew · 30/10/2021 21:58

You're more patient than me! Delete all messages with your address on if shes that dappy she probably won't remember it. Don't feel guilty, she's messed you about terribley. Just sell to the next bidder. I've learnt that if people don't collect/pay or communicate promptly to just ignore them and go with next person, they don't want the stuff unless they pay upfront.

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